ok, so ... what if dissociation is like being near a whirlpool / underwater tornado?
Your SCUBA gear is the dissociation, and the vortex is the currently-overwhelming traumatic memory or sensory experience.

Maybe?
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also ow. got some prednisolone for the asthma attacks the last few weeks. Needed hald a dozen puffs on my ventolin and felt like it did fuck-all.
Rarely ever had a wheeze before. I'd be concerned if I weren't so resigned.

Anyway. Keep warm where you can.
https://patient.info/news-and-features/what-happens-during-an-asthma-attack

What happens during an asthma attack?

An asthma attack starts with exposure to an asthma trigger. The airway lining of the lungs becomes inflamed and swells, causing breathlessness.

oh god, sneezing hurts. fuck this shit.

https://patient.info/news-and-features/how-to-handle-asthma-during-the-winter-months fucking cunt shit

How to handle asthma during the winter months

Asthma symptoms can worsen during winter. You can help manage your asthma by taking precautions such as washing hands and wearing a mask in crowded places.

doc said it was probably viral. THANK FUCK I got vaccinated months ago. https://www.nhs.uk/vaccinations/flu-vaccine/

been way too fucking lax with my mask fit lately.
Fucking teenage buy harassed me the day my asthma felt like it was killing me, yay. (the atmosphere doubled in weight on me, yanno?)

Flu vaccine

Find out about the flu vaccine for adults, including who should have it, how to get it and side effects.

nhs.uk

omfg no wonder no one knows what 'medical jargon' refers to.
Pick a term, define it, and use it consistently in context.

Does pneumonia mean:
A, inflammation / swelling of the lung tissue;
B, non-air liquid gunk in lung or lungs;
C, infection with any pathogen usually bacterial, but sometimes viral or fungal; or
D, whatever the fuck else I read in this dumb web page that I'm too bored to amend here.

Important: "Other germs, such as fungi, yeasts, or protozoa, can sometimes also cause pneumonia.

Rarely, pneumonia can be caused by inhaling poisons or chemicals rather than an infection.
Many different substances, including liquids, gases, small particles, dust, or fumes, can cause this."

https://patient.info/chest-lungs/chest-infection/pneumonia

Pneumonia

Pneumonia is inflammation of the lung tissue usually due to infection. Symptoms include coughing, fever, headache and loss of appetite. Written by a GP.

"A particular type of pneumonia is known as aspiration pneumonia.

This occurs when small amounts of stomach contents or liquids from the mouth or throat are inhaled into the lungs.
These inhaled substances can irritate the lungs, cause infection, or block the smaller airways.

Aspiration pneumonia usually affects frail elderly people, those who are drowsy or unconscious, or individuals with conditions that cause swallowing difficulties."

... probably includes heartburn / GERD / acid reflux, gastritis, and shit like that, huh. Great.

what's the queer spoonie version? cuz couch and chill is my usual, which is beyond me rn.

https://asthma.net/forums/what-do-you-do-to-distract-yourself-from-an-asthma-flare-up-or-attack

I disagree so hard on this one. A gift is NOT an obligation to perform happiness.
https://nebula.tv/videos/littlejoel-im-obsessed-with-this-aita-post/

Dude has a birthday.
GF asked what kind of birthday cake to make for him, because she wanted to.
He says exactly what kind of cake he wanted.
She bakes him mostly what he asked for, but adds stuff he did not want on his birthday cake.
She then asks his opinion, he answers honestly: he was disappointed in the cake she baked for him, because it was not what he answered to her question of what he wanted. (He ate some of it and didn't bring it up until she did, but prob made a face tbh.)
She expresses her upsetness at this: that he did not enjoy the cake that he did not ask for.
He "should" enjoy the cake that she wanted to bake for him.
But he did not eat the cake that he wanted, he ate what he was given.
She says his answer embarassed her in front of her kids.

Why did she ask, not prepared to handle a "no"? Why ask in front of the kids? Why externalise the cause of unpleasant emotional responses?

Yes, I'm sure he could have been more tactful. But her behaviour reminds me of my mom who refuses therapy and it creeps me out. (yada yada disclaimer, could be fake but interesting discussion, only one perspectic, blah blah.)

Little Joel — I'm Obsessed With This AITA Post

I'm Obsessed With This AITA Post

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ok, back to the second part after I wrote that.

The first highlighted reply is fuckin' weird too. Why would you be "PISSED"?
Clearly there's just been a miscommunication or a values mismatch here.
It doesn't need to result in anger or feeling like a personal attack. (The core reasoning may reveal some way worse relationships problems at that time, but that's for later.)

Second one: roughly, 'why not do what he asked?' (Although I thought she asked and he answered tbh.)
"Idk, because she wanted to?"

Then boom. There's the problem. She did what she wanted to, regardless of what he wanted for *his* birthday, and then was upset that he did not feel (express) exclusively positive feelings about her errant efforts.

https://nebula.tv/videos/littlejoel-im-obsessed-with-this-aita-post/

Little Joel — I'm Obsessed With This AITA Post

I'm Obsessed With This AITA Post

Nebula

Third one: roughly, 'she's gaslighting him and y'all are defending him'.
LJ: "how could she make something other than the platonic image of what she had in his mind."

Motherfucker!

BF wanted devil's food cake. He wanted boxed, easy-bake, can't-fuck-it-up cake.
He probably wanted the premade icing for the same reasons:
either familiar, or didn't want to demand effort from her, or the taste was nostalgic, or he had a craving, or a combo, or otherwise.

Asking for KFC is far different from asking your partner to make shake and bake, which is STILL far different from asking them to make you lobster bisque.

And if they ask for / answer KFC and you give them the bisque, don't be surprised when they're disappointed because you specifically did not give them what they know you know they wanted.

https://nebula.tv/videos/littlejoel-im-obsessed-with-this-aita-post/

Little Joel — I'm Obsessed With This AITA Post

I'm Obsessed With This AITA Post

Nebula

Fourth one: roughly, 'how do people make up whatever they want to do and then get annoyed that someone doesn't enjoy the remix they didn't ask for?' meep "and expect you to thank them for it?"

Ok fair, do thank the person for the effort, because it was not nothing, and it is sweet to try to make someone happy, regardless of how.

However: "Thank you for birthday thing"
and "Thank you for *this* birthday thing (that you know explicitly I did not want)"
are again separate statements.

LJ: [actually we broadly agree here, even if I do think he's being hyperbolic in his phrasing.]

https://nebula.tv/videos/littlejoel-im-obsessed-with-this-aita-post/

Little Joel — I'm Obsessed With This AITA Post

I'm Obsessed With This AITA Post

Nebula

LJ: "You're allowed to disagree with my interpretation of events here and that's okay!
But that DOES mean that you are an 8 year old. You are an 8 year old boy.
There's no other way that this makes any sense. Thank you."

I hope this means he's joking or playing a character because wow, otherwise.

Strange self-centred possible meltdown aside, I'm just gonna casually remind people a few things.

Children are often more emotionally mature than many adults.
Boys have emotions.
Boys can have emotions perfectly proportionate to a situation.

Adults can be wrong. We are often wrong. Adults can be mistaken about the intent of others. We often mistake the intent of others.

IF YOU HAVE A STRONG EMOTIONAL RESPONSE TO SOMETHING:
Assume you are wrong. Leave the situation if you can. (If you can't leave the situation, you may unfortunately be right!)

Consider: What could cause a reasonably logical, well-meaning person to disagree with you? What details might you not know at that time?

https://nebula.tv/videos/littlejoel-im-obsessed-with-this-aita-post/

Little Joel — I'm Obsessed With This AITA Post

I'm Obsessed With This AITA Post

Nebula

Louder for the everyone everywhere:

Children are often more emotionally mature than many adults.

Boys have emotions. (?! What?! Humans, they can ... react to things?!)

Boys can have emotions perfectly proportionate to a situation.

Adults can be wrong. We are often wrong. Adults can be mistaken about the intent of others. We often mistake the intent of others.

When you have a STRONG EMOTIONAL RESPONSE to something, NOTICE IT.

Assume you are wrong. Leave the situation if you can. (If you can't leave the situation, you may unfortunately be right!)

Consider: What could cause a reasonably logical, well-meaning person to disagree with you? What details might you not know at that time?

oh yeah, and from the top:

A gift is not an obligation.

remember long covid exists. all the other oppressions exist. there is no place for human hierarchies.

also I feel like ass rn.

https://www.nhs.uk/medicines/prednisolone/about-prednisolone-tablets-and-liquid I have lungosis: my lung(s) is wrong rn.

#OortArtCloud #spoonie #ill #asthma #AsthmaAttacked #respiratory #corticosteroids #lung

About prednisolone tablets and liquid

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"Responsibility for this falls upon different people differently.
These are ideas most applicable to people like me, upon whom the fascist threat only touches generally and glancingly.
For those in groups directly targeted for fascist hatred, these may be useful ideas at times, but sometimes the goal will simply be getting to safety or staying alive another day, or putting one foot in front of the other.

Let me suggest three simple and broadly applicable precepts of differentiation.

As much as possible, we should do things fascists cannot do.

As much as possible, we should not do things fascists want us to do and we should do things fascists don't want us to do.

Never accept the fascist offer."

https://www.the-reframe.com/fighting-in-the-dark/

Fighting In The Dark

Doing things fascists can't do. Not doing things fascists want us to do. Doing things fascists don't want us to do. Refusing the fascist offer.

The Reframe

"Fascists believe that if they brutalize and punish people enough, they can do anything, but that's not true.

For example, fascists cannot accept blame or accountability for what they have done, or admit their complicity in what has been done on their behalf.

And, because fascists hold themselves to be blameless and exceptional, they cannot admit that they are improvable, so for fascists the idea of truth and repair and restoration are treated as attacks and threats.

For this reason I think fascists struggle to repair things that are broken, or enter into awareness of reality as it is.

They cling instead to their alternative fantasy of their own supremacy, and this makes them as vulnerable to reality as they are brutal with it."

#YouCanBeWrong
a bit like https://zeroes.ca/@currentbias/113797959230416286

CurrentBias Ⓥ🏴 (@[email protected])

Content warning: Safety profile differences & ableism within the covid realism community (long post)

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But what do?

"We can admit our own blame and culpability, and we should.

We can seek out spaces where people have already organized and built support, and if we do, we will encounter many people who have lived for a long time under the traditional threat of American christian patriarchal supremacy.

In these moments, we can leave space for the very natural resentment that may arise that it has taken us this long to find them, and the very well-earned suspicion that our allegiance will prove undependable, and we can receive it without petitioning for our own blamelessness."

No one will hate you for trying to do better.
They will be disappointed at the delay, the remaining (increasing) work, and the circumstances, but they are grateful for any change of heart and plans.

As long as you actually mean your support (show it! Listen! Learn! LISTEN! Only *THEN* ASK)
then your support can have sustainable effects for other people who needed it before you knew they existed.

https://www.the-reframe.com/fighting-in-the-dark/

#YouCanBeWrong #WeCanBeWrong #OortArtCloud

Fighting In The Dark

Doing things fascists can't do. Not doing things fascists want us to do. Doing things fascists don't want us to do. Refusing the fascist offer.

The Reframe

"I think it's important to note that the things that fascists cannot do are not things that they are incapable of; they are simply things which, the more a person did them, the more that person would cease being fascist and would start becoming something better.
If we do these things ourselves, it creates a new atmosphere, which makes it more possible (if still unlikely) that others might leave fascism's grim picture and enter a new and better frame.

They can leave fascism, you know.
It's possible.
A lot of people are going to be terribly harmed by this thing they voted for, and a lot of them did it out of ignorance, which is easier to escape than indifference; and even indifference is easier to escape than active malice.

Because we are committed to seeing things as they are, we must maintain boundaries [...] — not because we are interested in isolation and shunning, but because ** a space cannot be safe if it admits a person who means to bring harm. **

[...] Fascists are unlikely to change no matter how badly they are harmed, because they would then have to lose supremacy's unnatural advantages, and pay the costs [...] of what they have done.

[...] If any do start to move back toward our shared humanity, we should be ready to do another thing fascists cannot, which is to recognize positive progress and celebrate it.

And we can show how it is done by doing it ourselves."

https://www.the-reframe.com/fighting-in-the-dark/

Fighting In The Dark

Doing things fascists can't do. Not doing things fascists want us to do. Doing things fascists don't want us to do. Refusing the fascist offer.

The Reframe

oh yeah https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sUUqYclfokI needs an update. Honestly, the cadence was always off in noticeable parts, imo.

#music #MusicLover #musician #FurryMusician #transMusician #musicians

Crassus: Minted Song | Rotten Romans | Horrible Histories

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"Do not eat real licorice while taking prednisolone."

Good. Real licorice and licorice flavouring SUCKS. It legit made me gag or possibly vomit one time.

Unless that was aniseed / star anise? Something something croup as a baby, something negative association yada yada.

oh god my fucking head. anyway. heat pumps. I need to sleep.

https://learnmetrics.com/how-do-heat-pumps-work/

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Me?? Too tired to babble incessantly on main about anything and everything???

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KojYatpLPSE aw fuck I really gotta get the vtuber model set up on linux cinnamint. Shit's the Final Frontier before inflicting you lot with my grenette / lime-haired visage.
The Simpsons - Would You Say It's Time For Everyone To Panic?

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@MxVerda no real licorice has cardiac impact outside of the US it's printed with warnings because of it an i am reliably voted most likely to die of licorice poisoning each year

there are deaths from it, but not me yet

@deilann wait sorry, are you saying "no, real licorice has cardiac warnings" or "no licorice that is real has cardiac warnings"?

Either way, I'm sorry your snack has health risks to it :(

obligatory https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qg76qIZ4BQ8

A Man Ate 2 Pounds Licorice Candy. This Is What Happened To His Organs.

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@MxVerda

many countries outside the US put cardiac/health warnings on real licorice because it messes with your potassium

@deilann these vegetables and proteins I very frequently crave
https://patient.info/digestive-health/dietary-potassium
Dietary potassium

Potassium is needed for the normal functioning of nerves and muscles. Foods high in potassium include: baked potato's, bananas and avocados. Written by a GP.

@MxVerda yeah i often have low potassium but it's so good especially salty
fook, missed the domestic heat whatever scheme https://www.gov.uk/green-deal-energy-saving-measures/get-an-assessment
Green Deal: energy saving for your home

Green Deal home and business energy-saving improvements - assessments, repayments, Home Improvement Fund scheme

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