tamouse__ 🐭 Free Palestine 🍉Sep 27, 2024
Dee in London

"I accept you" is, for most, a lie they tell. it actually means "I tolerate you", but this is not acceptance.

acceptance is unconditional, and enthusiastic. take my hand and lets go shopping, have a makeover together, and go on to the lesbian bar for dancing... acceptance is infodumping and sharing your passions, and encouraging me to share mine and infodump in return... that's acceptance.

"I accept you"... and then you watch as they slowly disengage and fade from your life... it was barely "tolerate" TBH.

Sep 27, 2024 at 8:07amWeb
Show threadDee in LondonSep 27, 2024

"how should I treat you now?" is also one of the most patriarchal and misogynist responses I've encountered.

it really shows they've split the World into two stereotypes, Man and Woman... and they want to know which to apply, but this means they will treat individuals differently by which bucket they're in, they will apply different standards... which is inequality, they want to treat some (men) as better than others (women).

I'm starting to see this as one of the most obvious of red flags... "how should I treat you now?"... how about with decency and respect, and how about treating all people like that. if I was valued before, as a man, surely that value is still there? if it is not, why is that?

Show threadthejikzSep 28, 2024
@dee truly walking with people takes a LOT. The well intentioned have a lot to offer in talk but not the tokens to pay up sometimes.
In our fleeting moment, I hope you the best. Happy to be a dandelion floof that you see in passing! :)