Miriam's on Medical LeaveAug 17, 2024
when you marry that unassuming "boy" who has no needs or desires and only wants to do things for you so that you'll have a successful marriage
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@miriamrobern
Wait I didn't know this was a common trans experience! I thought it had more to do with environmental factors when I was young
Show threadMiriam's on Medical LeaveAug 18, 2024
@v3x A lot of trans folks sublimate their desire to live as their gender so habitually that they sublimate most of their desires—in my case i literally told myself my life was easier if i didnt want things—and then you couple that with the desperation to perfectly perform their assigned gender within their marriage, which ends up making their life about the fulfilling the wants and needs of their partner at the cost of the complete abnegation of themselves.
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@miriamrobern
So this is my exact experience and to some extent still lingers post-transition. I had no idea that was a trans thing. For me, it's a little religious and family trauma too, but it definitely has been a way I've suppressed the need for a sense of self in the past. So good to know I'm not alone, thanks for sharing
Aug 18, 2024 at 12:20pmWeb