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Fellow Men, what are some compliments you would like to recieve?

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Fellow Men, what are some compliments you would like to recieve? - Lemmy.World

I want to work on complimenting other men more! Specifically my goal is to compliment people on things they clearly worked hard on or put in effort, cause it sucks if you work super hard or care about something and then don’t feel like anyone notices. So I’m going to try and compliment people who: Have really well done and unique tattoos Are older but super athletic (It’s harder and more thankless, since when you’re young and athletic you’re usually in sports and get lots of praise. At least that was my experience) Have super sharp outfits Have really nice shoes (nice shoes are expensive and keeping them clean is legit hard) what are other good compliments we should give each other?

SatansMaggotyCumFart Jul 18, 2024

I like when other men compliment my penis.

Just a causal ’Nice dick bro’ when I’m wearing my nice gray sweats.

Mango Jul 18, 2024

SatansMaggotyCumFart Jul 18, 2024

I thought you blocked me!

toomanypancakes Jul 18, 2024

I used to be a dude years ago, so I hope you’ll still accept a “nice dick, bro!”

SatansMaggotyCumFart Jul 18, 2024

I used to be a dude too.

Stil am, but I used to be as well.

Plopp Jul 18, 2024

Mitch is violently turning in his grave right now and I want to scream.

SatansMaggotyCumFart Jul 18, 2024

I think he’d be laughing if he wasn’t so decomposed.

workerONE Jul 18, 2024

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Dude, the grey sweatpants drive me crazy. Can’t keep me eyes off your package when you wear those.

ieatpwns Jul 18, 2024

“Nice cock bro”

poorlytunedAstring Jul 18, 2024

“I’m so jealous of your bottomless cash flow”

toomanypancakes Jul 18, 2024

I’m super jealous of your bottomless cash flow, mine’s pretty much only topless

Lost_My_Mind Jul 18, 2024

With a name like “toomanypancakes” I was expecting you to have a muffin top.

Dr. Wesker Jul 18, 2024

Tell me my nipples are a normal size.

toomanypancakes Jul 18, 2024

Your nips are both especially manly and normal sized, I’m suitably impressed!

GBU_28 Jul 18, 2024

Not overly, mind you. Just suitably

Mango Jul 18, 2024

I’m usually pretty happy to be recognized for my extreme dexterity.

toomanypancakes Jul 18, 2024

Hey there, I saw you juggling while twirling a drumstick and just wanted to tell you I was really impressed by your dexterity

Today Jul 18, 2024

There can be too many pancakes?

Mango Jul 18, 2024

Nonono, I spin a puppyhammer while doing the Melbourne shuffle!

Last weekend I saw a dude juggling and riding a little cruiser skateboard though!

qooqie Jul 18, 2024

To answer honestly, probably that someone enjoys having me around

DominusOfMegadeus Jul 18, 2024

That would do wonders for my repressed lack of self esteem, and certainty that everyone hates me

MeThisGuy Jul 18, 2024

I don’t hate you

Tikiporch Jul 18, 2024

My bro changes literally anything, they get a “Nice, bro.”

1984 Jul 18, 2024

I was in Italy on vacation and a girl in a hotel reception said me and my girlfriend have really beautiful blue eyes. They are not used to blue eyes in Italy so much, but it felt very nice to get a compliment as a guy. I think I’ve rarely or never had compliments from strangers like that.

Mouselemming Jul 18, 2024

That woman probably felt safer to compliment you as well as your girlfriend because you were together. Sadly, guys in general get fewer compliments from girls than pop into the girls’ heads because they’re afraid of how the guy would react.

Which is why it’s nice for OP to call on guys to compliment each other, and notice when they’ve put in effort.

I’m going to add, “Great hair!”

Thorny_Insight Jul 18, 2024

My personal favorite probably is compliments on when I have built/fixed something. It’s the skill I’m the most proud of.

Maestro Jul 18, 2024

I'm always ordering weird shirts off the internet. From like video games, Youtube channels, FOSS and general geeky fun stuff. About once or twice a year some total stranger will say "cool shirt!" out of nowhere. That always makes me smile the rest of the day 😊

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morphballganon Jul 18, 2024

“That’s an interesting thought!”

“This (thing I worked on) looks great!”

“I respect the choices you’re making here.”

Kimdracula Jul 18, 2024

I honestly don’t like to receive compliments from dudes. Here nobody does that. From a girl is different and has “value” but from a dude is just weird.

silly goose meekah Jul 18, 2024

I think that’s a you issue though. Recently a dude complimented my moustache (I grew it out for a while and put a bunch of effort into making it curly) and that felt awesome.

Kimdracula Jul 18, 2024

How’s that a me issue? I’m not the one complimenting guys.

silly goose meekah Jul 18, 2024

I think it’s a you issue because you think giving compliments from man to man is weird. What exactly is your issue with it? Are you afraid it makes you look gay or something? For example, if I’m wearing a shirt of a band I like, and another dude compliments it, why would that not make me feel good? Feeling seen is a human need I think, it gives a sense of belonging.

tobogganablaze Jul 18, 2024

For example, if I’m wearing a shirt of a band I like, and another dude compliments it, why would that not make me feel good?

I’d say it depends on how you compliment it exactly. If you say “That’s a nice shirt”, that’s basically saying you have good taste. I see no issue with that.

But if you’d say “You look nice in that shirt”, that would be weird and I’d assume you’re coming on to me.

silly goose meekah Jul 18, 2024

But why is it weird? As long as whoever compliments you like that doesn’t try to kiss you, what’s the issue? To me it seems there is some homophobia lingering there.

tobogganablaze Jul 18, 2024

It’s not a big issue. It would just feel weird, I can’t give you a reason.

To me it seems there is some homophobia lingering there.

If it was coming from a gay guy, that would acually make it better. At least then you understand the motivation for commenting on another guy’s looks.

silly goose meekah Jul 18, 2024

Hmm, fair enough.

I removed that sentence because I realized it was a bit assumptious. But honestly I don’t understand why it would be better from a gay person. That would make me personally more uncomfortable, because it would feel like an advance that I would not be able to retort. If it would come from someone I assume ia straight, I would just take it as a compliment. Like, I can see how other men are beautiful/handsome, even though I have no sexual interest.

tobogganablaze Jul 18, 2024

Well, if very much the exact opposite for me. I really don’t understand why you would care about how other people look unless it’s physical attraction. Telling someone that they look good without any physical attraction seems very unsincere to me. Like, why do you care how I look like if you have no interest? It’s just weird.

Now I do agree there are some exceptions for extreme cases. I can look at Ryan Gosling and it’s hard to ignore that he is a very beautiful/handsome man. But I still wouldn’t tell HIM that. First of all, he knows and second, for what purpose? I’m not really interested, he’s interessted. It would be a weird thing to say.

silly goose meekah Jul 18, 2024

It’s not about caring about the way someone looks, it’s about appreciating something someone has put effort into or the way they express themselves, imo

I guess Ryan gosling knows it, yeah. But probably not every man you see on the bus or at the grocery store does. So why not brighten their day a little? I like to compliment guys on tattoos or nice hairstyles etc when I notice it.

tobogganablaze Jul 18, 2024

it’s about appreciating something someone has put effort into or the way they express themselves, imo {

So basically A for effort, that’s exactly what I mean by it being insincere.

But probably not every man you see on the bus or at the grocery store does. So why not brighten their day a little?

Because that is just lying to people to make them feel better. It’s patronizing and disrespectful.

silly goose meekah Jul 18, 2024

why would it be insincere? again, sounds like a you problem to me.

tobogganablaze Jul 18, 2024

What do you mean why? YOU just explained it to me.

You said you would tell someone their beautiful, not because they actually are, but because you’re regonize that they put in effort. That’s insincere.

You said you should tell random people on the bus (most of them will be very average looking) that they are beautiful, because you want to make them feel better. It doesn’t get more insincere than that.

Also, there is no problem because guys randomly complimenting each other isn’t a widespread thing in the real world. And in my book that’s a good thing. There is already enough lying and disconnect from reality in the world.

silly goose meekah Jul 18, 2024

obviously I’d only say it when I actually think it’s beautiful… I just prefer to compliment something where they put in effort instead of just ‘nice eyes’ or some bullshit like that.

you added the part where I just say it to everyone in your interpretation.

Kimdracula Jul 19, 2024

Hell, majority of guys DON’T wanna receive compliments from another dude. Even if Reddit tries to make you believe that isn’t the truth. We, as males wanna be out at least look strong and being told sissy shit is far from it. Again, from a girl has a lot more of merit, especially since she don’t go around saying them to guys usually unless I dunno, every dude in her condo is a model.

Kimdracula Jul 18, 2024

That’s the problem. Males usually only do compliments here in sexual interest. Don’t deny it. I don’t want any of it from a dude. I welcome it from a girl. I’m a male.

silly goose meekah Jul 18, 2024

I mean, I’m able to see beauty in men, even though I am not sexually attracted to them. Not sure why that would be a problem. Also male here.

AstralPath Jul 24, 2024

Honestly, based on your comments here I’d say that this is a you problem by proxy; I’d bet that it’s your dad that’s done you such a disservice raising you that you now reject compliments from 50% of the population of earth. That’s a problem for you.

On the sexual side, if you can’t see any positive in another man showing you any sort of attention in that way, that’s a problem. Its not gay to receive a compliment, man. Just say thanks and move on with your day. EZ PZ.

lightnsfw Jul 19, 2024

I think you sound pretty normal. Dudes should be able to compliment each other. If it wasn’t for that most of us would get nothing.

Kimdracula Jul 18, 2024

Ok not but that’s different. The guy is complimenting “the shirt or the band that appeals to him” not you.

tobogganablaze Jul 18, 2024

I know, that was the difference I wanted to highlight because it wasn’t clear in the previous comment.

Kimdracula Jul 18, 2024

Oh

bstix Jul 18, 2024

What you say is also a key point to understanding where the borderline is for sexual harassment or other types of unwanted behaviours in the workplace.

This is often confusing for some people who often ask: “Why can’t I say this and what’s up with everyone being offended over compliments?”, etc.

Simply put: It’s perfectly fine to say “nice jeans”, but it is not okay to say “your butt looks great in those jeans”.

It might be fine for other private occasions, but in a professional working environment we shouldn’t judge each other by personal appearance or sexuality.

telllos Jul 18, 2024

I think dude shouldn’t feel uptight about this. Tell a guy you like something they do or have shouldn’t be seen as negative. Honestly a small ego boost never hurts.

I told my uber driver the other day that I like his watch, I’m sure he was happy about it.

silly goose meekah Jul 18, 2024

I put a bunch of effort into making my moustache curly, a bit like Dali. And recently I received a compliment from a dude for that. I really liked that.

telllos Jul 18, 2024

Nice, getting compliment from women isn’t easy. But getting them from guys is even harder. You must have a great moustache.

silly goose meekah Jul 18, 2024

I mean, it still doesn’t stay curly as much as I’d like it to (even with wax or pomade) but its definitely pretty nice when its the way i want it to be, I think!