Real talk time:

"Just asking questions" is a weapon. We know full-well that some people exploit it to feign innocence when deliberately throwing noise into discussions. And it works in large part because it encourages otherwise earnest discussions which then contribute to the noise.

So be careful.

This is a reality which sucks. And I know that full-well.

But it's one of the central ways we get held back from making important changes. The status quo preys on people believing we can't do things - so if you believe we need to change? Be careful that you're not playing into that hand.

@TechConnectify You've probably seen it, and I don't want to imply that you haven't, but some people reading this might not have - the Alt-Right Playbook is a good reference for this kind of strategy.

A good starting point that touches on the JAQ thing -
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CaPgDQkmqqM

The Alt-Right Playbook: Control the Conversation

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@TechConnectify See also, ā€œboth sides of a debate deserve equal timeā€ 😬
@RobeeShepherd @TechConnectify
And the old standby when they get proven to be talking nonsense "I was just kidding/Joking" with a dollop of "how could you take it seriously"
Why do none of Trump’s ā€˜jokes’ feel like jokes?

Perhaps he’s doing his own version of Andy Kaufman’s Tony Clifton, but he never breaks character.

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paywalled link, so cannot read and it is also three years old.
@TechConnectify I have taken to saying ā€œif you disagree, please say so and make your case if it’s relevant. If you’re asking questions to learn, don’t make them leading.ā€
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This sea lion has made the rounds. Also, a clarification on the sea lion character. Updated reaction images are also available.

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@TechConnectify "Sealioning". It is so well abused, it's been given a name.
@larsmb @TechConnectify Yup. I've also heard the cruder "JAQing off"

@larsmb I am not talking about sealioning. That person knows what they're doing and doesn't need anyone to tell them to be careful.

I'm talking about people engaging in conversations about things which are technically true but don't actually matter. We need to get better at recognizing when things are irrelevant and let them drop out of the conversation, because earnest people who don't do this unwittingly bring fodder to the disinformers of the world.

Let me give you an example:

@larsmb This post was spurred by a convo on a different platform.

It is true that to electrify everything as we need to do, we will face challenges. But if all you can do is ask "will the power grid be able to keep up with demand?" without realizing that A) yes, it always has B) it must if we are to meet the goal anyway and C) given A and B this question doesn't actually need to be asked, then you're giving credit to the opposition & also worsening the doom spiral which makes us feel powerless.

@TechConnectify @larsmb It's an insidious form of cherry-picking. Even if the malefactor here eventually *technically* includes all the counterpoints, but if their headline / lede graf is all about hand-wringing and challenges and they only get to potential ambiguous solutions later on, they can easily poison the discourse while still covering their ass about accusations of misdirection. (And sometimes they don't even bother to do that.)

@glyph @larsmb Right, but I think the real challenge here is that honest people who genuinely want the world to get better also do this! They often don't realize they're doing it, but they're doing it.

That's what I mean by "be careful" - you have to have some awareness of what you're stepping in and what the words you leave behind will contribute.

@TechConnectify @larsmb šŸ’Æ, this is a good point, it's easier to do this by accident.
@TechConnectify @larsmb I still tend to think of these people as "bad" because quite often it's mainstream journalists who are, whether they're doing it consciously or not, driving clicks by shilling anxiety
@TechConnectify @larsmb and they should really, really know better
@glyph @TechConnectify @larsmb this is something I’ve been thinking about a lot. We know from being online what ā€œjust asking questionsā€ looks like. And ā€œflooding the zoneā€ and ā€œnever play defense. ā€œ but I see media constantly engage with these. I imagine it’s a combo of driving traffic and actually wanting to mainstream right wing talking points but I wonder if there could be a handbook for those who would like to do better. Or am I just asking questions ha!

@TechConnectify I like this take. "Don't think it's easy, or that you'll have all the answers out of the gate, but don't let the ambiguity of the problem stop you from having meaningful conversations and making meaningful change."

Which is really just "Don't let perfect be the enemy of good" dressed up a bit, I suppose. šŸ˜†

@CiscoJunkie @TechConnectify It's… not quite about that. More about taking care where you put the emphasis in a conversation.

If you are among experts, having an internal conversation, where everyone knows the general plan, it's fine to open up with a big list of problems as you try to solve them one at a time.

If you're talking to the general public, introducing them to a topic or catching laypeople up to the state of the art, beginning with a laundry list of "questions" can mislead.

@CiscoJunkie @TechConnectify This can also be true even if you are legitimately curious and don't know the answer to the questions! A big open-ended anxious "what if" on a big platform gives the reader the impression that the answers are *generally* unknown, rather than that you in specific are ignorant.

@TechConnectify @larsmb

And ignores the fact that the same question has continually been asked about O&G which also seems to always expand to meet demand. (Which anyone old enough to remember the various ā€˜peak oil’ panics will tell you about)

@TechConnectify @larsmb

Ah, they are cavilling.

You can reply with "Aside, sirrah, I have no time for your petty cavilling". And put your hand on the pommel of your sword, to indicate that you are serious.

https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/cavil

Definition of CAVIL

Definition of 'cavil' by Merriam-Webster

@jztusk @TechConnectify @larsmb and if they do will you end them rightly by throwing said pommel

(Couldn't resist the meme, sorry)

@beeoproblem @TechConnectify @larsmb

Hah! I am old and cheugy and had to look up that meme. Learn something new every day.

@TechConnectify Right. It's somewhat related I feel to what I vented about in https://mastodon.online/@larsmb/111997902452056689 - people value to engage socially, and value that above an actually helpful contribution (which might either have been to invest more effort before replying, or not to reply/ask at all).
It is a conundrum!
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I've noticed that the hardest part of replying to a question on the Internet is replying to the question asked, not the question one wanted, or refraining from suggesting a different question instead. Or replying with something from the first five search results. I know, you're social, you want to be nice, but please. ABSTAIN. Folks. YOU'RE NOT BEING HELPFUL. You're creating ADDITIONAL WORK for a person who already has an unanswered question. "Would my response help me in their situation?"

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@TechConnectify @larsmb this sounds a whole lot like your excellent "but sometimes", just in the online communication way? Or I guess is the same at the core. I really liked that video for giving a sort of concrete phrasing to a frustration I've repeatedly had.
@TechConnectify @larsmb I like that "Hey I guess we'll have to spend some money to upgrade energy grids. Many of which are in desperate need of upgrades regardless of an increase in demand (see CA wildfires caused by aging grid infrastructure)" is supposed to sound like an impossible way to tackle climate change, but "Let's just create a sci-fi technology to solve all the problems" is supposed to be inspiring.
@derrickb @TechConnectify @larsmb
Some people want a silver bullet. A single, magic solution excites them in a way lots of incremental improvements don't. You see the same attitude for many problems.
@TechConnectify @larsmb more efficient things = less power consumption.
@TechConnectify @larsmb
One of the things I've learned to look for is whether someone is searching for problems or solutions. People who are focused exclusively on problems are usually looking for an excuse for inaction. People who are focused on solutions want the project to succeed. They may still see obstacles, but they'll at least try to find solutions. If they can't find one, they'll be happy to hear someone else has.
@VATVSLPR @TechConnectify @larsmb I was trying to write this post and couldn't explain what I meant but you did and now I don't have to.
@mikej @VATVSLPR @larsmb As Mr. Rogers said: look for the helpers.
@TechConnectify @larsmb This is akin to the principle in marketing, or in writing a resume or presentation slides, of focusing on the main points of a message. If your main points are A, B, and C, then don't dilute the message by also showing DEFG HIJK LMNOP.
@TechConnectify This leads to a culture where everyone is afraid to ask basic questions.
@konradmb Only an incredibly bad-faith interpretation of this does.
@TechConnectify I've seen a thread here (I mean on this platform), where a genuine, honest question (I'm convinced it was) has been group-dismissed as "sealioning".

@konradmb And sealioning isn't at all what I'm talking about, here.

Frankly I'm kind of stunned at how many people are interpreting me to mean what you've suggested. I'm not saying nobody should ask questions - I'm saying people need to give a little more thought into whether those questions are even relevant. Because weaponized questions are a thing, and some folks don't realize this or don't believe they could ever unwittingly do this.

@TechConnectify I don't know why, but I got the impression that you are proposing to dismiss those questions without proper response. I'm wrong, right?

@konradmb Yes, because this is directed to the question-askers. Not the answer-providers.

But, if you believe someone is in fact asking questions in bad-faith, I don't believe you're under any obligation to engage. Because that's what they want.

@TechConnectify Meh, it's easy to think "it's a bad-faith question", but you can't really prove that. I mean - it's not a falsifiable hypothesis, so it's unable to be proven. So to err on the side of caution I'd give a proper response.

@konradmb OK, well now - specifically to you in the situation of you being asked a question - I would advise that you use caution. Much of this is audience- and setting-specific, and I think in some contexts it's safe to assume that questions are being asked in good faith.

But it's not always. And if you think a certain response might be what someone's looking for, you probably shouldn't engage.

@konradmb I kind of hate saying this but the fact of the matter is we are in an information war and we are all soldiers.

The world would be a much happier place if I could reasonably assume everyone merely seeks the truth. But that ain't the world we're living in.

@TechConnectify I'm sorry, but I can't agree with that. If someone is looking for a slip-up, it will happen sooner or later. I couldn't keep up with checking if some questions are good- or bad-faith. It's a siege mentality.

Dismissing questions as bad-faith is (was) often done on Polish DIY board elektroda.pl. That culture was so popular with the older generation of tech-folks it permeated through the whole scene, that I've had a college lecturer that behaved in the same way IRL.

@konradmb You're welcome to disagree, but based on your response, I genuinely don't think you're on the same wavelength that I am.
@TechConnectify If you say so. I can't really see where, but that's ok, I don't want to waste your time.
I've just wanted to add a thank you for your videos. You're doing a ton of research to make them.
@konradmb @TechConnectify nice that you have all this free time to handle all the bad faith.
Some of us, just don't