Here's the Decision that my abuser and I got from Schiedsstelle in June 2022. His name is censored.
I'd like to emphasize once more that I'm thankful for the voluntary work that Schiedsstelle has put in. The process as a whole has been empowering and healing.
However:
- As you can see the misconduct of the abuser is ongoing. This is confirmed by all parties. Yet he is allowed back to congress.
- I expected to get one abuser-free congress, but I was denied this.
Regarding "exclusive areas" offered to me:
For a gaslighting survivor this is an inappropriate safety measure. I already wrote that I declined the offer and decided to dress in High Visibility instead.
What's not in the decision is that Schiedsstelle also offered an exclusive area TO HIM. They told me he also declined. But by telling me this, Schiedsstelle meta-communicated to me that _he would need protection from me_. This contributed to my pre-congress agony.
Before there was a Schiedstelle, the congress would not exclude anyone, because the congress wouldn't allow survivors to open a case.
Nowadays we can open a case, and we can get a decision in our favor, if our case is good.
But as a result, congress now _explicitly welcomes abusers_. To me as a survivor this becomes a mindfuck: YES we believe you, and YES the abuser's freedom to do almost anything takes precedence over the survivor's well-founded fear.
I'm not sure that's an improvement.
@diowdaddwa I'm open to talk about this :) not gonna name names, since my goal is not vengeance towards my Abuser but rather to make abusers and psychopaths in general less harmful.
Do you have any more specific questions or reflections that are not covered in my thread from last year?
@fuzzle I second this question. I would think, if there's reason to believe that there will be continuous abuse and other visitors of the congress are in danger, too, e.g. the person disregarded boundaries of several people on several play parties within the context of the congress continuously, a life long ban might be justified. But if it is "just" a conflict between you two, e.g. you've been in a relationship and your abuser gaslighted you. I don't know … 1/
@levampyre @fuzzle thank you for this question. The original failing is with the judicial systems. My Abuser should have gone to jail for one of the rapes he committed on me, one where there was a witness. However the Swedish police is failing miserably when the rapist lives in another EU country.
So, the Congress has committed to picking up the slack. The Schiedsstelle has looked into it and made a thorough investigation. Since they do believe me, my Abuser should be Banned. Full stop.
@levampyre @fuzzle rehabilitation was my preferred solution too. During the months that I broke free from him I was convinced that his root issue was addiction, and I tried to get his family to make him go to rehab. I later learned that addiction wasn't the root cause of his abuse.
Psychopathy is.
He lacks capacity for remorse and he can never stop abusing people. It's agonizing, knowing that his next victim will also be unprofessionally treated by the police and distrusted by society.
@levampyre @fuzzle the One Year Ban +5 Year Restrictions plan that the Schiedsstelle has mandated is there with the explicit idea that time will heal. This is the explicitly stated reason why the One Year Ban was completely useless. They didn't regard my need to de-traumatise myself without him being around for one year, as I thought was the idea.
Based on those pieces of data I'd say that NO they do not take his psychopathy into account... 1/2
@casandro
The screenshot in this toot would suggest otherwise: https://chaos.social/@Emalstm/111697019997367637
Attached: 1 image Here's the Decision that my abuser and I got from Schiedsstelle in June 2022. His name is censored. I'd like to emphasize once more that I'm thankful for the voluntary work that Schiedsstelle has put in. The process as a whole has been empowering and healing. However: - As you can see the misconduct of the abuser is ongoing. This is confirmed by all parties. Yet he is allowed back to congress. - I expected to get one abuser-free congress, but I was denied this.
@trav_tan @casandro thank you Tania for stepping in an giving a good clarification based on what I have written 
The current status is that Schiedsstelle has concluded that my story is believable and his is not.
The Schiedsstelle then decides that a person they believe to have done very serious crimes should have the freedom to roam the Congress essentially in full freedom, including in "hard to police areas" (exact quote), such as the dance floor...
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