Triple ⁂Oct 8, 2023

One collateral damage of having your kid in the hospital is seeing your partner way less.

In German hospitals only one parents is allowed to stay at night with their hospitalized kid, and we are not visiting each others daily as we used to do at the beginning. This mainly to allow the other parent staying at home to rest / socialize / work.

Show threadTriple ⁂Oct 8, 2023
The consequences are that we don't see each other at all as much as before, which is a big change when you where used to live together and both work from home. Also the parent staying at home (me today) is always alone at home, finding traces of their partner when arriving, and leaving some for them when going back to switch with them as the caretaker in the hospital.
Show threadTriple ⁂Oct 8, 2023
This didn't have any bad consequences on our couple yet, but it surely shifts some dynamics and has implications on our mutual feeling of what's home.
Show threadPatric King

@triple we have a set day every single week that neither of us is allowed to be away from home or taking care of Mom

it helps, a lot—both the rule and the structure #myMPSkid

Oct 9, 2023 at 2:06amWeb
Show threadTriple ⁂Oct 9, 2023
@xotypeco That’s a very cool and healthy rule. We are trying something similar but had both a bit too much work lately which came at the same moment than a 2 weeks early hospitalisation.