Coach GowronSometimes the best people you know may be wholly unaware of their quality, or even think they lack worth. Remind them. Remind them of their worth, that you are honored to be in their company, that they matter. It may seem a small thing to you, but not to them.
🧙♂️ Julian Invictus ☕@coachgowron your mileage may vary. Some people have such a warped view of themselves that it can be slightly dysphoria inducing when they're praised, as they feel like the people saying those things don't really know them. There's a balance to be struck to overcome that in gaining their trust.
Strypey@Julian_Invictus
> Some people have such a warped view of themselves that it can be slightly dysphoria inducing when they're praised
I'm one. But we still need and appreciate praise, even if we don't always show it.
For years I would deflect praise, either by minimising it ("it was nothing") or by reversing it, by giving knee-jerk praise for something vaguely related to what they're praising. I trained myself out of this using humour, "I know, but it's nice to be reminded" 😆
@coachgowron
@strypey sounds like you've done a lot of hard work if you can both recognize it and train yourself to push through it.
@Julian_Invictus
> sounds like you've done a lot of hard work if you can both recognize it and train yourself to push through it.
I still cringe a bit whenever I receive compliments. The work is ongoing. But I can feel the difference it makes to people when I accept their compliments instead of deflecting them, and that makes it easier.
@strypey I tried to keep it as dry as I possibly could for you.
@Julian_Invictus
> I tried to keep it as dry as I possibly could for you
Hehe, appreciated :)
John Wilson@coachgowron
And there are some whose quality is readily apparent.
Nimona RESISTS@coachgowron
I used to work with someone who needed to be reminded that she was a worthwhile person and deserved to be happy.
I used to work with someone who needed to be reminded that she was a worthwhile person and deserved to be happy.
Shalini@coachgowron greatly said! often as an individual we tend to lose hope and confidence.. but at the end of the day we survive just because we had the courage to face it. So self-worth is very important and as you said we must be proud of it.
The ol' ALFer@coachgowron Since Willie was home late, I ate his dinner. So I told him that he was worth a dinner to me.
He didn't seem as impressed as you said he would be.
Strx 
@coachgowron I lost a dear friend recently. His name was Zach. He was always down on himself, called himself a terrible person. Always diminished his worth. He died of an asthma induced heart attack.
He was a wonderful friend, always trying to be helpful and a light in the lights of others.
I wish, that I could have told him this more often.
But I will strive to make him proud.