Coach GowronSometimes the best people you know may be wholly unaware of their quality, or even think they lack worth. Remind them. Remind them of their worth, that you are honored to be in their company, that they matter. It may seem a small thing to you, but not to them.
🧙♂️ Julian Invictus ☕@coachgowron your mileage may vary. Some people have such a warped view of themselves that it can be slightly dysphoria inducing when they're praised, as they feel like the people saying those things don't really know them. There's a balance to be struck to overcome that in gaining their trust.
Strypey@Julian_Invictus
> Some people have such a warped view of themselves that it can be slightly dysphoria inducing when they're praised
I'm one. But we still need and appreciate praise, even if we don't always show it.
For years I would deflect praise, either by minimising it ("it was nothing") or by reversing it, by giving knee-jerk praise for something vaguely related to what they're praising. I trained myself out of this using humour, "I know, but it's nice to be reminded" 😆
@coachgowron
@strypey sounds like you've done a lot of hard work if you can both recognize it and train yourself to push through it.
@Julian_Invictus
> sounds like you've done a lot of hard work if you can both recognize it and train yourself to push through it.
I still cringe a bit whenever I receive compliments. The work is ongoing. But I can feel the difference it makes to people when I accept their compliments instead of deflecting them, and that makes it easier.
@strypey I tried to keep it as dry as I possibly could for you.
@Julian_Invictus
> I tried to keep it as dry as I possibly could for you
Hehe, appreciated :)