Skyler
Shoutout to all the people who went undiagnosed in their childhood because despite never fitting in and feeling like you belonged, you got good grades, and that was all that mattered to anyone.
Sep 23, 2023 at 12:15pmWeb
Show threada fresh pup of coffee Sep 23, 2023

@skyler Agreed, and yall are valid as heck.

I'm gonna laugh at myself, if that's ok, because the reason that I got diagnosed in childhood was specifically because I had good grades, and they wanted to balance those against behavior issues

Show threadsadmac356Sep 24, 2023
@david yeah seriously I only got diagnosed with ADHD as a kid because the therapist I started seeing for anxiety ended up testing me for it. The autism flew under the radar for me until I was like 17, though my current therapist mentioned in one of my sessions that he suspected it before I did
Show threadLona TheartlavSep 23, 2023
@skyler Or didn't even have good grades, just no one had a clue or believed in it.
Show threadZippy WonderdustSep 23, 2023
@skyler <queue Yello from Ferris Bueller> Oh yeah!!
Show threademberquill Sep 23, 2023

@skyler I'm in this post and I don't like it. 

I breezed through school and then basically hit a wall in college and that's how I found out I had ADHD, haha.

Show threadNyx PhoenixSep 23, 2023

@skyler i got good grades… until i didn’t anymore

realized there was no material difference between a failing grade and a zero, so i stopped caring and found the actual root of my problems 🦋

Show threadJill 🛸Sep 23, 2023
@skyler too real
Show thread💎cinderdazzle ⁷ 💜Sep 23, 2023
@jillithd @skyler 😭😭😭
Show threadPhantom Kitty (Tech)Sep 23, 2023
@skyler there were courses in junior and senior high that I failed because I just was not interested in the subject. No matter how hard I tried, I just could not make myself do the work in it, or retain information about it.
Show threadAksSep 23, 2023
@skyler too real and my grades were slightly above average at best
Show threadRichard SchneemanSep 23, 2023
@aks @skyler team “gets okay grades but talks too much” and later “your child has to stop reading books under their desk and pay attention” checking in.
Show threadKeira   Sep 23, 2023
@skyler @hotkey I think getting good grades may have actually been one of my hyper fixations.
Show threadLegally ZoéSep 23, 2023

@keira_incognita I was in a class for gifted kids, hung around with nerds like me in a bubble. Surfed through school, we had contests like "who would get better grades / make the fanciest lab reports".

Didn't really have friends on the "outside" because I never fitted in.

Then I got out of school an into the real world and everything came crashing down.

Oh I'm autistic? Oh maybe ADHD? Oh, gender dysphoria?
... would have been nice to have a heads up, I don't know... DECADES AGO!?

@skyler

Show threadkib@wetdry:~$ Sep 23, 2023
@skyler that's exactly me rn :(
Show threadAviva GarySep 23, 2023
@skyler This but also with learning disabilities or other disabilities but it's cool because at least "you're functional".
Show threadZyraph Chronicros 🐲🦈θ∆Sep 23, 2023

@skyler
I was never diagnosed because I had a brother who was, so of course I was compared to that and as a result, "oh, well compared between them, he looks normal, he's just lazy and needs to work harder. This one is obviously not developmentally challenged, if he was, he'd be just like the other one. Go do your homework and go to college, normal kid!"

Now I'm taking the steps in adulthood to hopefully get a proper diagnosis, but even if I get it, the damage has already been done. I can only hope to share with my friends and use the knowledge to help others understand me.

Show threadSolarbird Sep 23, 2023
@skyler And B was for get Beatings if you didn’t get highest possible marks. Which meant a couple of years of pretty bad violence until they figured out “Oh, _nearsighted_, well then, that’s different.”
Show threadCreature Of The Hill  Sep 23, 2023
@skyler 👋
Show threadlinear cannonSep 23, 2023
@skyler for me it was partly that and partly "you definitely have ADD and definitely nothing else and if you arent getting better its because you dont want to. even though we arent giving you meds or any useful advice/therapy"
Show threadlinear cannonSep 23, 2023
@skyler i immediately knew that was bullshit but it still fucked me up a bit
Show threadlinear cannonSep 23, 2023
@skyler two psychs in a row pulling that garbage is a big part of why ive not even tried to see another in the 10 years since becoming an adult, until last month

and holy shit, guess what, i have adhd and anxiety and ocd and autism, and it turns out that with working meds i can, in fact, be semi-functional and start to work things out for myself
Show threadHieronymous SmashSep 23, 2023
@skyler oof shoutout received, and thank you for the visibility. Been thinking about whether to bother with a diagnosis again, and it's good to remember that one is not alone in this
Show threadmephistoSep 23, 2023
@skyler Or not having good grades and no one cares to take a closer look.
Show threadFilipi LimiSep 24, 2023

@skyler not officially diagnosed, but somewhere among those lines (wouldn't fit in, good grades, bad social skills)

thx for the salute

Show threadohai ΘΔ  Sep 24, 2023
@skyler God, same. What hurts even more is, I got good grades into early High School, then hit a wall when "pulling it out of nowhere at the last possible moment" stopped being enough :(
Show threadIt’s Trey!Sep 24, 2023
@skyler 🩵
Show threadLoranSkunkySep 24, 2023
@skyler I was just "the weird kid" for many years
Show threadJen, EnbymilfSep 24, 2023

@skyler bold of you to assume i got good grades.

Ha ha… Oh god…

Show threadAverage Punk Rock LoserSep 24, 2023

@skyler

Oof.

Show threadforest Sep 24, 2023
@skyler one of my primary school teachers sent me to get an ADHD diagnosis and then the doctor went: "ah yes you have all the symptoms, but Nono, you're just gifted™ and have uneccesarilly strict parents bye" so I only recently got an actual diagnosis with that letter I found from the doctor from back then
Show thread🐲​​Friday ACAB🐉Sep 24, 2023

@skyler even if you get diagnosed super early, grades are the number one priority

(speaking from my own experience)

Show threadI TRIED TO TELL YOUSep 25, 2023
@skyler still undiagnosed
Show threadeuroplus Sep 26, 2023
@skyler it me, with a “minor” correction: bothered to get good grades often enough
Show threadVefhtagnSep 27, 2023
@skyler I feel call out.
Show threadSparky-Luna Sep 29, 2023
@skyler my adhd was diagnosed, my autism was not, i was prescribed literal drugs and nearly died due to them, I was just 8... they particularly prescribed that thing to mitigate my trauma from my parents divorcing I guess...
my grades were good, but my social interaction score was always low. Now it's the opposite direction, my social interactions are good but my grades :(
Show threadFerles  Oct 14, 2023
@skyler definitely was me
Show threadFerles  Oct 14, 2023
@skyler except I guess I would say it was also because parents weren't bothered by the fact that I was "different" or had atypical interests. They thought it was perfecting fine for us to be ourselves, although they were saddened that I did not have many friends