masukomiJul 12, 2023

The allistic desire to answer questions with anything EXCEPT words that answer the thing you _actually_ asked IS FUCKING MADDENING.

I've asked a coworker what the consequences of X are twice. The second time i got really specific about what i was looking for.

2's the limit. So now i have to just wander off without an answer and hope nothing breaks, because I'm an ass-hole if i keep asking the same damn thing despite them not answering.

#ActuallyAutistic @actuallyautistic

Show threadNudeln Al Dente 🐘Jul 12, 2023
@masukomi @actuallyautistic ymmv but I've found that drip feeding coworkers (particularly non-IT ones) the questions can result in better outcomes. Email the 1st question, wait for response, then email the 2nd question (even though it didn't require the answer for 1), & so on. If they're capable, I might be able to ask 2 questions in 1 email. But putting out all the questions in one go results in overload & I won't get the info I need. Or worse, they'll ask for a call. 🤦‍♂️
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@NudelnAlDente @actuallyautistic that's a good solution, but in this case it was two attempts at the same question. :/

will it break things for customers? Dunno. 🤷‍♀️ can't get an answer. Will have to find out when it goes to prod. Only positive is, if it _does_ break things, it won't break them for long.

Jul 12, 2023 at 5:06pmWeb
Show threadNudeln Al Dente 🐘Jul 12, 2023

@masukomi @actuallyautistic Ugh, that sounds like a bigger problem - "we literally don't know (or care) about our architecture/ecosystem/product & the impact of making changes to it."

And I sympathise, repeatedly having to ask the same question is soul destroying.