Brianna WuJul 3, 2023
Women of Mastodon! How do you deal with men talking over you in a professional setting?
Show threadBrianna WuJul 3, 2023

2/ None of my go-tos are great. Interjecting, “can I please finish,” is the best I have. Raising your voice and repeating until they stop is aggressive and bitchy.

Letting them say whatever, totally ignoring, and starting over from the beginning also works but is super bitchy.

Show threadSeanJul 3, 2023
@briannawu Something I admire leaders doing is noticing this happening and saying "Hang on, B; A is trying to say something, let them speak." I often let people talk over me, but find it easier to speak up for others
Show threadBrianna WuJul 3, 2023
@squizzleflip I think a fundamental part of leadership is making sure everyone gets a say.
Show threadJen

@briannawu @squizzleflip I think this is right. “Bitchy” is socially constructed & has to be deconstructed by allies with strong leadership skills. Practicing appropriate behavior — identifying misbehavior & gently asking someone to correct it — & then allowing the full discussion is probably the most productive way for change to occur.

Having said that, it pisses me off that I can’t just have the floor when it’s my turn & I have to measure my response.

Jul 3, 2023 at 10:53pmWeb
Show threadSeanJul 4, 2023
@JustJen @briannawu Yeah for sure - it's frustrating that something that should be "leadership 101" isn't the norm. It's part of why seeing diverse leadership is important; subconsciously we'll defer to the leaders and those that "look the role". And because we don't have enough diversity in leadership we still have to come up with these strategies just to be heard