Louie Mantia, Jr.Jun 28, 2023

I really, deeply wish everyone would make some collective effort to unlearn the passive argumentative nature we all learned from Twitter.

Everyone always treated posts like invitations to debate or argue every point.

We deserve better than this. We don’t have to do that.

Show threadLouie Mantia, Jr.Jun 28, 2023

It’s so ingrained that lots of people don’t realize they’re doing it. They think they’re just “making conversation.”

There are so many ways of making conversation that aren’t just contradicting the person.

That doesn’t mean the only option is to agree either! These are false choices you don’t have to adhere to.

Show threadLouie Mantia, Jr.Jun 28, 2023

Put frankly: people don’t care about opinions from people they wouldn’t ask advice from.

Stop offering your opinion to people who don’t even know you. They don’t care.

For any of that to have meaning or weight, you’ve gotta have some kind of rapport or relationship with them.

Offering your opinions without those things is completely meaningless.

Show threadStop ThatJun 29, 2023
@louie It really is wild over here on Mastodon - the amount of mansplaining and Well Actuallys on this site feels like it dwarfs twitter at times. People will just rock up to tell you why you are wrong/what something ACTUALLY means, or explain to you a joke you made. And like you said, it’s one thing when it’s someone you know, but something entirely different when it’s someone you don’t know from Adam popping in like they know you.
Show threadLouie Mantia, Jr.
@stopthatgirl7 Right. The context of friendship changes it completely. I think some networks like these with one-way follows give people the impression they’re friends when they’re not. So they behave in a way that’s overly close, like they’re your chums.
Jun 29, 2023 at 1:01amWeb
Show threadStop ThatJun 29, 2023
@louie Which can and has caused communication issues. There are jokes you can make with your friends that you can’t make with strangers, and they assume since they know you, you’re friends. There’s a level of sarcasm/rudeness that’s fine amongst friends but will be taken poorly by a stranger. A lot of folks don’t realize they’re involved in a one-sided, parasocial relationship because the person on the other end isn’t famous or well-known.