[Notes:]
— The reason McCoy is asking Spock for permission to do stuff is partly because she outranks him (Spock is a full commander, McCoy is a lieutenant commander on a medical commission a la Hawkeye Pierce), and partly as a friend, because she is in an uncomfortable position and he wants to place her firmly in control of the situation.
— Spock is canonically vegetarian, so the salad isn't intended to be like a feminising element of characterisation or anything.
— I used the phrase "a momentary lapse of reason" because it felt appropriate. I hope it doesn't seem out of place.
— The "fire in the river' thing is kind of an oblique reference to Brisbane fireworks festival RiverFire, but I would have wanted to put the scene the exact same way even if I hadn't been referring to RiverFire.
— The canonical placement of this fic is solidifying as taking place in the four-year gap between the end of THE ORIGINAL SERIES (2269 CE) and the beginning of THE MOTION PICTURE (c. 2273 CE).
— "Reconciliation with" Sarek is in the context of TOS: "Journey to Babel" Prior to which Spock and Sarek had not spoken for eighteen years.
— The mention of T'Pring is a reference to TOS: "Amok Time", which was based on Spock being betrothed to T'Pring from childhood, implicitly most likely by Sarek.
— Qua means "in the capacity of being".
— Spock halts before "child" because internalised transphobia is still preventing her from saying "daughter," which McCoy will comprehend in the next section.
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