CaddiMar 22, 2023
#ADHD #COGNITIVEDISORDERS
I have fairly recently discovered that I have ADHD, and at 64 there is no way that I'll get diagnosed. My GP said it sounds as if you do have it, but resources are insufficient for children's diagnoses. The more I learn the more clear it becomes, but also I'm learning how to deal with it.
Can anyone advise me how to deal with those people who won't believe me, or who continue to tell me that I'm just looking for excuses for my continuous lateness, untidyness, etc?
Show threadOscii

@Caddi You're 64. If you haven't mastered the art of meeting their expectations by now, you probably aren't going to, ADHD or no ADHD. They don't need to believe you, they need to accept you as you are, or ship out.

Good luck, though - it's easy for me to be all determined and fierce about it, because they aren't my people. It's harder when you care what they think.

Mar 23, 2023 at 8:16amWeb
Show threadCaddiMar 23, 2023
@Oscii I really wish I didn't care about their feelings - I guess I am always looking for approval. I am blessed to have a great son who pointed out my obvious traits of #ADHD. My Beloved is 'probably autistic' but sees no point in being diagnosed and accepts me. It's just my mother and sister, and my (ex?) colleagues. I really do care about them and their opinion of me.
Show threadOsciiMar 23, 2023

@Caddi I get it - I also struggle to get my mother to believe I'm good enough. It's really hard.

But the reality is, you're doing your best. You've been doing your best all along, and if they don't approve of you now, you might need to accept that they're never going to.

They aren't moulding you from chaotic teenager into functioning adult. You have a family and a job. You've succeeded in being what you needed to be, and the time to accept who you are was over forty years ago.