Dear non-trans allies:

"I can't talk for the trans community" is a good answer made better when it's followed by "but I support them fully and fight by their side for their rights".

Your silence or ambivalence in this trying times is seen as support by our detractors.

Paradox of tolerance - Wikipedia

@Bene yes, I know it already.
How does it relate to my toot?

@rebeccafinn beeing silent I your example, is showing tolerance to the intolerant. Kind of what you said, but with a Wikipedia article.

If the concept is unknown, people tend to keep their voice down, not supporting people or https groups that need it.

Justed wanted to give some input

@Bene in my very humble experience, they think that not supporting the intolerant is enough.
Happens to be the same that other minorities report finding, with phrases like "I'm not racist", when what we need now is more people saying "I'm anti-racist" (and acting accordingly).

@rebeccafinn I'm having a hard time finding the correct word's at the moment... Sry if you got me wrong.

I support what you said. When I hear sh*t talk about minorities, I tried to stand up against it. I think, it's often a deficit in information.

@Bene @rebeccafinn

Honestly, the paradox of tolerance goes both ways. The extreme intolerance against potential allies who do not demonstrate "perfect" allyship in the precise way that one (or more) transactivist demands, as well as attacks on anyone who dares to critique some of the conduct of said activists, in turn makes those activists subject to rightful intolerance by otherwise tolerant people.

Skewing the responsibility of tolerance to one side is, itself, intolerant.

@VividConfusion
I was taught that the right response to someone giving me points to change or improve my advocacy was to introspect, not remove my support from them.
Are you dismissing a call to action against people who threaten the existence of a minority over the fact that some of them are not perfect in their response to you?
I am failing to follow the logic here.

@rebeccafinn

This is exactly what I was referencing. My response was not 'the right response' according to you. So, you've accused me of "dismissing a call to action against people who threaten the existence" of transgender people.

No matter what tolerance or wholehearted acceptance someone has of transgender people in general, they are still targeted by *some* transactivists for not agreeing w/their methods. Any criticism of misconduct by those activists is immediately met with attack.

@rebeccafinn

My point is that the intolerance of some transactivists against even those who are allies for not conforming with their concept or for daring to disagree with behavior or views on allyship, is itself justifiably met with intolerance from tolerant people. The tolerance paradox.

You can't expect tolerance of someone and give none yourself.