Dear non-trans allies:
"I can't talk for the trans community" is a good answer made better when it's followed by "but I support them fully and fight by their side for their rights".
Your silence or ambivalence in this trying times is seen as support by our detractors.
@rebeccafinn Absolutely this.
I'm not trans, but I don't need to be. They exist and they need my help. I don't have their language, but I use mine to the best of my ability.
@rebeccafinn beeing silent I your example, is showing tolerance to the intolerant. Kind of what you said, but with a Wikipedia article.
If the concept is unknown, people tend to keep their voice down, not supporting people or https groups that need it.
Justed wanted to give some input
@rebeccafinn I'm having a hard time finding the correct word's at the moment... Sry if you got me wrong.
I support what you said. When I hear sh*t talk about minorities, I tried to stand up against it. I think, it's often a deficit in information.
Honestly, the paradox of tolerance goes both ways. The extreme intolerance against potential allies who do not demonstrate "perfect" allyship in the precise way that one (or more) transactivist demands, as well as attacks on anyone who dares to critique some of the conduct of said activists, in turn makes those activists subject to rightful intolerance by otherwise tolerant people.
Skewing the responsibility of tolerance to one side is, itself, intolerant.
This is exactly what I was referencing. My response was not 'the right response' according to you. So, you've accused me of "dismissing a call to action against people who threaten the existence" of transgender people.
No matter what tolerance or wholehearted acceptance someone has of transgender people in general, they are still targeted by *some* transactivists for not agreeing w/their methods. Any criticism of misconduct by those activists is immediately met with attack.
See what you accused me of.
The part where you claim I'm talking about transgender people as a group.
I'm taking about toxic behavior by *some* transactivist. Their attacks & accusations against allies who do not conform to what those activists demand. Their intolerance of any criticism of their toxic behavior. And their lack of tolerance for differences in how allyship is presented by different people.
In short, *some* transactivists are so wholly intolerant that they themselves should not be tolerated.
Okay, now you are clearly being intentionally obtuse, distorting and misrepresenting everything I've written.
I was giving you the benefit of the doubt that you honestly couldn't see where you were missing the point I was making. Now it's clear you are just giving a great example of that toxicity to which I was referring.
Thanks for the proof of my point.
Have a good night.
Demanding that people "speak up" and then attacking people for how they do it is one example of the toxicity I was referencing. Objecting to people who remain silent, though supportive, when they get attacked for speaking up, is another. For many allies, it's turned into a damned if you do, damned if you don't situation. And the intolerance and toxicity of the transactivists attacking them for it is still tolerated. It shouldn't be.
My point is that the intolerance of some transactivists against even those who are allies for not conforming with their concept or for daring to disagree with behavior or views on allyship, is itself justifiably met with intolerance from tolerant people. The tolerance paradox.
You can't expect tolerance of someone and give none yourself.
@rebeccafinn as a “yes, and” in case folks find it useful:
Detractors have weaponized some of that “well it’s not happening to you, so your perspective is invalid” + accuse folks of white-knighting or scoring social justice/“woke” points.
They want you to doubt your position/knowledge and eliminate any chance at solidarity. Don’t let them.
@rebeccafinn
I am trans but a I can't talk for the trans community, only for myself, and I had and still have plenty of problems, even though I live in a civil country like The Netherlands.
I hope more people will support LGBTQIA+.
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