This will upset some, but it needs to be said.

People keep asking when the right will wake up and denounce their worst reactionaries.

It’s not same scale, but progressives have a similar challenge. When will we stop letting our most reactive, anonymous people define us?

I’m a progressive. So much so, I ran for congress on universal health care, working class economics, addressing structural racism, and legalized marijuana and sex work.

The difference isn’t in our ideals, it’s in our behavior

2/ I do not know a single person doing actual work on the left that it's at their wits end about the crazies.

I do not know a single person doing actual work on the left that doesn't have some degree of trauma from abuse by our own side.

Here’s the truth. Your behavior has destroyed the mainstream perception of progressives. We’re not seen as champions of the working class.

We’re seen as a bunch of self-righteous assholes. You are in the business of dividing us over the most petty nonsense

3/ Every single person on the left I know with actual power I know is tired of your bullshit. I’m inviting you to grow up.

There is not going to be a moment where you scream and people on the right and center have an epiphany and realize you are right and they are wrong.

If you are serious about change, you have to work for it. The same way every other successful progressive movement in history has worked for it.

4/ You say you want a glorious revolution, but it's the normie Democrats showing up to canvas and phonebank. It's why they win.

Another thing. We need to learn to let things go. Every difference in perspective is not a crisis. We amplify every minor disagreement like it’s a moral failing.

Politics is about addition, not subtraction. We have to work with people who see the world differently.

5/ My hands are not clean on this. I've certainly done my share of reactionary, non-constructive bullshit on Twitter.

But, I also think that gives me credibility to publicly say, "This is not working. We have to do something different."

And here’s why I’m speaking up now.

I think you are vulnerable.

6/ People are tired of the drama, the bullshit, the moral indignation over small differences. This is the moment we can have a culture shift if people speak up.

The left has always had to work twice as hard as the right. We have to be twice as strategic, and we’re punished twice as hard for mistakes.

Our Twitter activism culture is cancer. And I am done being bullied into silence over it.

@briannawu From a high level point of view this all sounds great. But then the rubber hits the road when everyone draws a different line in the sand. One person's small difference is another person's red line. Who gets to define where that line is?
@ReflexVE @briannawu Drawing red lines doesn't work. As an activist, you need to differentiate between what is the work you want to accomplish, and what are your emotional needs that you need to get help with. Red lines are part of the emotional needs bucket, not the work bucket. Of course we need to not traumatize each other, but that cuts both ways. Red lines can both be legitimate emotional needs, and also traps for well-intentioned other participants. E.g. https://theintercept.com/2022/05/08/maryland-campaign-brandy-brooks-progressive-accountability/
The Implosion of a Democratic Socialist Campaign

Brandy Brooks, an equity consultant running for Maryland office, was well-positioned to resolve a harassment complaint by a campaign staffer and friend. Mediation was successful — but it fell apart anyway.

The Intercept
@ReflexVE @briannawu That is not to say that your emotional needs aren't valid, but work is work, and expecting your co-workers to be your primary resource for satisfying your emotional needs, and feeling betrayed when they fuck up, which they inevitably do because we are all human, weakens the organization. So it's really important to keep the two separate to the degree possible.

@abhayakara @briannawu A red line is something like "Are we going to defend trans folk or are we going to sacrifice them to gain aceptance for lgb folk like we did for generations?"

That's not an 'emotional' need, it's a red line.

Or how about whether or not we'll let unrepentant sexual harassers like, say, Al Franken, back into party leadership?

Again, not emotional, it's a red line.

@ReflexVE @briannawu I will probably be crossing a red line by saying this, but if you have a bunch of TERFs who will help you with something you and they both care about, and they don't insist that you agree with them about their TERF awfulness, do you work with them on the thing you mutually agree on, or do you not, because they are assholes. That's what I mean when I say red lines are problematic. The world is full of assholes who give a shit about some of the same things you do.
@ReflexVE @briannawu Franken's behavior was disgusting. He shouldn't be elected to public office again. Not because I don't believe in atonement or forgiveness, but just because it isn't a smart idea. I don't expect him to get a nomination again, but if the Democratic party tries to help him to get one, that would definitely be inappropriate.

@briannawu @abhayakara A smart idea? Vs taking sexual harassment seriously especially when the harrasser has done nothing to admit much less atone?

Finding your choice of wording revealing...

@ReflexVE @briannawu Revealing of what? I said I find his behavior disgusting. I still think it's quite possible that the Democrats might push him as a candidate again. That speaks to my disgust for the Democratic leadership, not my support of doing such a thing.
@briannawu @abhayakara You keep speaking of these issues in strategic rather than moral or ethical terms. That is the issue I am having with your responses. Doing the right thing is always more important than winning.

@ReflexVE @briannawu This is exactly the problem. Look, suppose Trump is running against somebody who's got a strong voting history of supporting Big Pharma and the banks, but is generally likely to do a lot less harm than Trump.

Morally, voting for him is indefensible if your morality is all about appearances. But if what you care about is results, then voting for him is really not even a choice.

@ReflexVE @briannawu It is a rare privilege to get to vote for a politician who isn't problematic. I haven't gotten to do it very often. If voting matters, we have to be very careful about how we think about "morality" as it relates to voting.
@briannawu @abhayakara I gave my red line. Nobody who dehumanizes. It's a pretty low bar. Have only once not had a candidate to vote for.

@ReflexVE @briannawu I think you're fooling yourself. How many candidates have you voted for that approved increases in the military budget? Approved importing goods from countries with really bad human rights records? Approved invading sovereign countries because they were evil?

I've almost never gotten to vote for a candidate I was sure wouldn't do that. Even Becca Balint had to kowtow to the military. That's dehumanization: saying it's okay to kill someone you disagree with.

@briannawu @abhayakara You are inventing a strawman to argue against. I have been very precise about my red lines. None of those are it. Furthermore the issues Brianna raises are not those either, honestly.
@ReflexVE David, it's precisely this kind of divisive unpleasantness that she's talking about. You're not trying to find common ground with me. You are trying to find reasons that I'm wrong. Everything that I say, you find some way to make it sound like I'm a terrible person, and not someone with his own valid viewpoint that might be different than yours. You can't build coalitions this way. I am not even remotely your enemy, but you're treating me like one.

@abhayakara Your 'common ground' started with the assertion that red lines are inherently emotional, as opposed to logical, ethical or moral, then proceeded to invent a scenario where I could achieve some progressive goal by allying with TERFs but not agreeing with them, and followed up by suggesting that if there is a common goal they should be appealed to on that basis.

The only way you appeal to a group unified by hatred of something is to...agree with or decline to oppose that hatred.

@abhayakara I cannot appeal to TERFs as a group unless I am agreeing with their philosophy or declining to oppose their hatred, both of which advance their agenda. There is no way to gain their support without giving them support, either actively or passively, in return.

Now I could on an individual level appeal to something else about a given TERF to gain support, but that is not an attempt to recruit or mobilize TERFs, that is appealing to them based on other groupings.

@abhayakara Based on that I'm not attempting to gain the support of TERFs at all, I'm appealing to other groupings, and some of them may include TERFs, racists or other types of bigots but in these other spaces that is not obvious.

I still don't need or want their support, but I have no idea who may hold such views in that context.

@abhayakara @briannawu Trump dehumanizes large swaths of the population. The other person isn't ideal but isn't a fascist. Easy choice.