@colinpurrington Thank you for the paper, Colin! Some spiderlings hatched shortly after the wasps and actually caught 2 or 3 of them and so I removed those and examined them. They actually are very flat! I had thought that was a feature of them being slightly mangled from the handling, ha.
But I agree that it's hard to tell and I'll rely on someone with more expertise to make the final call. I reached out to an acquaintance who specifically works on Scelionids, esp. Aradophagus, who parasitize spiders so I'm hopeful he'll make an ID for us! I'll update whenever that happens (could be weeks, months, who knows)...