This shit demonstrates exactly some of the arguments I've been making here. The thing that I want to direct everyone to is this:

"There is a fundamentally diferent culture here that you will need to understand or accept or you won't make it here... This is a world of builders.. you won't get anywhere by publishing social thesis or critiques."

https://soapbox.midwaytrades.com/objects/0c9b5e2b-1673-408d-acef-e6e7024ff3f1

The post, and the poster's replies, indicate one of my broader critiques: the "open source world of builders" that the OP points to is one that, by OP's own admission, does not care about the social critique of the things they are building.

That is, in a "world of builders" the social organization of what is being built is less important than actually being able to build something. To the extent that the social is less relevant, this is that I "need to understand."

Here, then, is a problem: insofar as this is a general attitude among members of the fediverse, it is predictable that folks are quick to say "build your own instance" as a solution BECAUSE it is an engineering solution presenting within the context of a "builder's world," but this ignores the fact that people have to LIVE in the world built by... uh... builders?

This points back to something that I've been saying and, honestly, is something that mastodonians of color have been saying: you cannot engineer a solution to a cultural problem. And, insofar as OP makes clear the cultural context of the cultural problems facing Mastodon, I actually agree with them.

Mastodon is a world of builders, but the myopic focus on the ability to build ignores what is being built and who is supposed to "live" there.

And, insofar as this "world of builders" keeps spitting out engineering solutions to cultural problems, the same cultural problems will continue to arise within the fediverse.

Why do you THINK the fediverse has never heard the end of CW and QT discourse? Why do you think that other replies in my threads have said "I've heard this whinging before?" It's because y'all keep trying to engineer a solution to a cultural problem.

And insofar as the dominant culture of mastodon keeps trying to treat its social problems as engineering problems, it'll keep having these problems and people will keep pointing them out until they leave or mastodon grapples with them.

@shengokai "Why do any introspection at all when I can build the U.S.S. Enterprise in Minecraft?" 😑

(Thank you for this thread.)

@shengokai
My biggest issue with #Mastodon is I *still* can't *extra follow*, people who challenge people to grow.

@AnonymooseGuy @shengokai Depending how you mean that, you can, and it's cool:

So to follow someone you go to their profile and click follow - then their posts appear in your Home.

Then to *extra* follow them you click the "bell" icon that now appears next to the [un]follow button - then their posts appear in your Notifications too. I do this for people where I really don't want to miss anything they say.

@zeborah @AnonymooseGuy @shengokai
This is a very cool tip, thank you!
@zeborah @AnonymooseGuy @shengokai Thanks for pointing that out. I have immediately set that up for a couple of ppl I follow.
@zeborah for me, the "extra follow" comes in the shape of adding that user's feed to my RSS reader through https://INSTANCE/users/USERNAME.rss @AnonymooseGuy

@zeborah @AnonymooseGuy @shengokai

Another approach to *extra* following: adding the people you want to extra follow to a pinned list. Then always read that list before your more general feed.

@dynamic @AnonymooseGuy @shengokai Absolutely. The reason I went with the notification method is because when I've read them all I can clear my notifications so I know "where I'm up to". For all other columns as I scroll through I have to play the "Have I now caught up or do I only remember that one because someone else boosted it?" game.

Oh, the notifications method may not include their boosts, so there's that downside.

@shengokai It’s very interesting what you are saying. It is a commonplace among software engineers to say “technical solutions cannot solve social problems” especially when a ubiquitous tech gets abused by a criminal grouping.

The world of UX also strongly understands the need to user test. These engineers seems to have forgotten that also.

So maybe there are some ways to help them past their assumptions (I hope)

@jim @shengokai Me, too. It feels similar to one of the questions in my research project.
@jim @shengokai If I come up with a valid recommendation, I'm gonna tell the whole world.
@trishalynn @jim @shengokai Software, such as used to create Mastodon, falls under Mass Media Principles. Two core principles are: Mass Media contains values, beliefs, & ideologies. MM convey intended & unintended messages based on these 3 elements. This set carries assumptions that have influenced how the engineers the constructed Mastodon (a Mass Medium). Those assumptions did not take into account the Black Experience. That experience sees Mastodon's constructed reality & messages.
@JPK_elmediat @jim @shengokai I'm not sure I follow where you're going by interjecting this. Are you "Yes, I agree with you, and..."-ing?
@trishalynn @jim @shengokai Sorry for confusion. I tend to see many issues & social conflicts in terms of Mass Media. For example, in my Media Literacy classes the Grd 11 Native & Black students saw the biases in ads and photos before most of the white students.
@JPK_elmediat @jim @shengokai Oh, of course you're going to do that, given your background. What you just said in that context now is amazing food for thought and a good piece of anecdata, too.
@trishalynn @jim @shengokai I should have added: If presented with media examples from past decades, there was no problem seeing the stereotypes. The white students just had a difficult time seeing the subtler forms of racism & lack of diversity in what was current media. It was too close to their world view & experience.

@shengokai the dominant culture can change rapidly, but the attitude is linked, as you observe, to behavior.

Being a leader in an engineering organization i came across lots of attempts to engineer technical solutions to social challenges. It's rarely inherently malevolent, but often can mix with inherited toxic prejudices. Usually it's associated with either immaturity or a persistent difficulty understanding how other people think (i.e. neurodivergence). Many engineering orgs structure around this dynamic.

One of the common techniques involves positioning experts that can tell the engineers what to do. Engineering mindset folks tend to trust experts, especially experts who appeal to arguments over sentiments. Getting those voices speaking and amplified might help mitigate.

@shengokai thank you for being one of those voices!
@DenialShown @shengokai as a newbie getting into this field I am noticing this too.. have to say it's hard to get used to coming from a social background..
@shengokai I think we are collectively malnourished when it comes to ways to relate to each other not mediated by cash. We know how to be customers, we know how to be individualistic DIYers, but we don’t know how to build inclusive communities together.
@fivetonsflax @shengokai
👆👆👆👆
::clanging bells & sirens dot gif::
@shengokai (Or at least, we don’t know how to do it at scale on the internet.)

@fivetonsflax @shengokai It's one of those #WickedProblems.

M. Scott Peck's #book The Different Drum describes for group therapy community development the process of forming, storming, norming, and performing (based on Tuckman's stages of group development).

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tuckman%27s_stages_of_group_development

https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/4443.The_Different_Drum

Tuckman's stages of group development - Wikipedia

@shengokai @fivetonsflax I think it might be helpful to inflect this observation a bit. This is very much a thing, but I see it more among able-bodied white people than other groups. I guess if one’s used to being the default, it’s easier to assume everything will be there for you if you need it.
@shengokai @shawrd773 You’re right. I knew I was overgeneralizing.
@shengokai one of the neglected social problems is right there in your post, unfortunately- There is no Mastodon. Mastodon is one implementation of an open protocol, used by myriad different people for different things. If you’re looking for Mastodon to do anything at all, you’ll be disappointed because there’s no such entity.
@thorne There does seem to be some collective action, even if it’s very weakly structured at the moment. (History suggests the lack of structure is temporary …)
@fivetonsflax Ben, what precedents did you have in mind?
I see structure, but diverse structure, with individual moderators drawing the lines on the map which keep different kinds of predators out, for diverse reasons.
@fivetonsflax I mean- as fast as any group defends their instance from any particular kind of abuse, the abusers form their own settled groups of instances where they’re ‘safe’ to be abusive.
@thorne Just that the internet, as embedded in capitalism, tends to centralize things. Not that I prefer it that way, mind you.
@thorne @shengokai Yes there is. There is a Mastodon culture that works across all instances. It's your shared values upon you don't reflect and without no community ever is able to work. And this culture apparently is very much built on white male hacker pride. Some of these values can be quite useful to your needs. But the same values tend be very violent and dangerous to others especially marginalized folks. And you don't seem to understand that.

@jofijaan @thorne @shengokai like literally all of you dudes I am puzzled! because for me this is a world of trans femmes and queers.

either you experience a completely different fediverse which has little overlap with the one I'm experiencing or you think trans femmes aren't marginalized. (because some us can run a server? What?).

Or can you tell me another reason why are you all ignoring us? Or rather why are you all refusing to deal with the fact that part of the fediverse is built by marginalized people?

@missqarnstein @thorne @shengokai I'm not but you seem to forget this maybe has something to do that marginalized yt people are still yt people. And looking around many here seem to have internalized a lot patriarchal values as well. All that works fine for you but is challenged when people with different experiences of marginalization demand a seat at the table. Only because you understand one category of marginalization it doesn't mean you understand the others.
@jofijaan @thorne @shengokai I am aware of this. But I am saying that you are ignoring our marginalization here. You respond to point out an aspect in which I'm not marginalized and say I internalized "white male hacker pride". Can you understand why this is aggravating beyond that I'm white? I mean how would you feel if I pretended you're just a white Johannes?

@missqarnstein it’s not as simple as the either or binary that you’re presenting here: different marginalized groups can and do gave different experiences of marginalization in the same space.

Further, even if I experienced this as a world of queer folks and trans femmes, it is not the case that being marginalized along one axis prevents marginalization along another.

The key thing here is in where you preface your statement “for me,” and this is important.

@jofijaan @shengokai I don’t think I have any values in common with the outright nazis or the instances whose sole organising principle is transphobia.

@jofijaan No, not actually.. I don know how long you have been on Matodon but early on the transgender group had a very big impact on the culture. Marginalized people still do. We'll see now how things will change with latest migration but that is how things where.

@thorne @shengokai

@shellkr @thorne @shengokai I've been around nerd spaces for a quite some time. And I have witnessed that nerd culture and queer culture very often seem to work well together. So I'm not surprised that queer people found their spaces on Mastodon. I'm sure that was very very hard work. But racism and yt privelege are something completely different entirely. And so far the sheer abilitiy around here just to acknowledge that is a bit underdeveloped, to say the least.

@jofijaan Ohh, if you talk about it in general I agree with you.

Mastodon though has a history of being fanatically against any sort of racism e.t.c.. The CW et.al.. have their origin in the queer and neurodivergent groups so I think there has been acknowledgement there.

Is there any part you think of especially that has been underdeveloped?

@thorne @shengokai

@shellkr @thorne @shengokai [1/2] I know all that but that's what meant: Fighting racism it's not just about banning slurs and racists from your platform. That's just the beginning. Racism is so deeply engraved in the history of Western societies. Everbody has internalized it. It's working subconsciously. And white people therefore use it subconsciously to their advantage aka white privilege. To tone police BIPoCs or arguing demands by BIPoCs down being 'factually' irrelvant or ...
@shellkr @thorne @shengokai [2/2] ... wrong or simply ignore their claims by having the majority. They do it all the time without realizing it aka white ignorance. This is not only extremely hurtfull for BIPoCs, it also makes fighting racism so very hard. So fighting racism on a platform for real would mean to actively push back white privilege. And users alone can't do that. An instance alone can't do that. This would need a much broader approach. And it would be a hell of a fight.

@jofijaan Yes, I know that and agree but from my view BIPoCs have gotten quite a big space here on Mastodon. I was asking more specific what you mean on here.. not in general.

@thorne @shengokai

@shellkr @thorne @shengokai Sorry, but this simply not the case. Please look again more thoroughly. And from what I'v seen so far how BIPoCs are treatet on a general level in daily conversations replies etc. I completely understand why. Twitter might be rougher. But this place is so white I wish my laundry would look like it after washing. And I really whish to leave this conversation now. Because it's draining.

@jofijaan Yes, Europeans are on here. That is not the same as BIPoCs are not respected. Of course.. Mastodon is not free from it and things could improve..

I think the ability to chose your admin (that it is decentralized) makes a real difference.

Personally I have seen almost none of it. Rather the opposite. I guess it also depends on who you follow.

@thorne @shengokai

@shengokai I hear you. Thank you for laying this out. My thought after reading was, "Ah yes, technocracy falls flat on its face... again."

@shengokai and if you're right (I think you are), how to fix this?

I'm a builder. And think in solutions. Just reiterating a problem won't ever solve it, it just makes frustrated humans.

@shengokai And they better grapple with them soon. Coz as Mastodon is growing it will further incorporate this techno omnipotence fantasy into it's social structure. Up to the point when it becomes unsolvable as it seems to have become in Wikipedia. They desperately trying to broaden their author's community but it's this white male nerd arrogance that aggressively is used to keep people away who demand more participation. All this a perfect example how systematic suppression works.
@shengokai It's funny (or maybe - peculiar) that I, when I first entered Mastodon, instinctively compared it to the MUDs of the 90s. Wich I back then entered as a budding designer and storyteller bend on social interaction and experience, not technical rules. And we fought for more than a decade against the same fixation of engineering solutions for social problems.
My Mastodon experience is a hard throw back so far.
@shengokai The optimist in me says numbers will help. Early Mastodon skewed heavily white.
Making Mastodon demographics look more like the US, or more like the world won’t fix Mastodon’s problems on its own but at least it gets the conversation going about how we can do better.
@shengokai Also, someone is throwing a very narrow definition of “builders” at you.
We’ve got writers and artists of all stripes. We’ve got game desiners and musicians. We’ve got welders and knitters. As an academic I’d argue you are simultaneously building human knowledge in general and young minds in particular.
Whoever semi-weaponized “builder” at you did a disservice to you and all those other people. We’re all builders.
@shengokai literally had someone tell me that any mastodon user wanting to complain should know how to file a bug on GitHub. I wonder if there's a pull request to scale moderation, or to fix people saying things like that.

@shengokai What practical steps would you suggest be taken to address this problem?

This is a great observation but I'm honestly not sure what I should be doing with this information.

@shengokai The worst social problems of scaling the fediverse are becoming extremely clear, and it's going to take leadership and consensus of the human part of the network rather than the technical to overcome them. But to even have this conversation here at all, we needed and still continue to need talented engineers. But it's time to broaden the thinking of these institutions by inviting different kinds of people to contribute in ways other than code.
@shengokai I think it's also okay if people leave the fediverse, especially if it makes them feel unsafe. Just adding a burst of a few million people to the network have shown how the technology and the community both need improvements, and the sad reality is that it's not going to be safe for everyone here until those improvements are made. That doesn't mean we should give up! I'm confident that enough people are motivated to make this social experiment work; but we need some time to grow up.
@shengokai
No help at all, but I think this is a problem with the wider culture. The idea that you can automate solutions to every problem is...optimistic.