Ron Gilbert (GrumpyGamer)Nov 23, 2022
Pro-tip: If you're a boss or manager, don't send email, Slacks, etc, outside of business hours. You might not intend them to be responded to until start of work, but it send a subtile message of "I'm working at 11pm or on the weekend, why aren't you?"
Show threadsagaNov 23, 2022

@grumpygamer 👏👏👏

The power dynamic is at play in an interaction like this that is hidden to the person holding the power.

I'd add - don't send your employees messages like "got a second to talk?" that don't also provide context! Anyone that's been in a toxic work environment likely has PTSD from such messages 😂

Show threadACGNov 23, 2022

@saga @grumpygamer

I send everyone this as soon as they start with the "hi" or "got a moment" bullshit:
https://therealadam.com/2021/11/01/dont-be-spooky/

Don’t be spooky

Adam Keys is typing
Show threadLiamSora Nov 23, 2022

@alexcg That second point is so important too. I had a previous boss that would either call me when I was off or wait until he was about to leave on Friday to tell me he was upset about something one of my employees did weeks ago and never mentioned until now.

So now not only is it harder for me to address the issue with my employee because it was something that happened weeks ago but I get to spend my entire weekend or day off worrying about it. 

Show threadACG
@liamsora my ex-manager considered our relationship so matey that it would come across as nbd. The general environment made me a bit paranoid I think
Nov 23, 2022 at 7:47pmWeb
Show threadLiamSora Nov 23, 2022

@alexcg Yeah I think my manager probably thought the same thing. It wasn't until shortly before he left and I mentioned that I didn't think I was good at managing that he suddenly realized the only feedback he had ever given me about my management was when he was complaining about my employees.

From his perspective he was thinking "You're so good, I hardly ever have to even say anything." But what I got was "The only things he ever says are negative so he must think I'm terrible at this."

Show threadACGNov 23, 2022

@liamsora pretty tired now, so can't give a decent response. But nice to meet someone in a similar situation.

Well, "nice" I guess. I wish nobody ever had to go through this bullshit. But misery breeds something or other

(Damn, work events take a toll)