In the first few months after my wife came out to me I spent a lot of time being constantly asked “are you going to stay together” so much so that it made me doubt myself. “Success” stories of ppl staying together through a transition and especially when they are married are still elusive to find so I like to be as visible as possible about it. It’s been near enough four years now & watching her become the woman she wanted to be has been an honour.
I’m not a special or honourable person, before Nicki came out I am ashamed to say I knew very little about transgender identities so it’s been a wild ride for both of us. But it is possible, it was the best thing that ever happened not just for her but for me because it gave me permission to start exploring parts of my sexuality and identity that I never felt ownership of.
A decade ago when we got married we both thought we were a heterosexual couple and now we’re two massive lesbian wives isn’t that wild      
@mellymeep this is definitely the best reason I've ever been crying on the train!
@mellymeep well, so far I'm still married. WML
@mellymeep The Daibutsu says love is love and love is good.
@mellymeep congrats to the two of you! a family member of mine's partner just recently made the decision to begin transitioning as well. it's good to see there are people who want to bring this to light more :)
@mellymeep You both look so cute 
@mellymeep i just keep reading this and feeling such a weird knot of emotions about how it shouldn't be a success that trans people's partners keep loving them, but it's so wonderful that you did and that you can continue to find joy and support in each other xx
@pip yeah this totally sums up my feelings and why I put “success” in quotes, the overwhelming narrative is that it’s a death or loss couldn’t be any further from my experience, I haven’t lost anything but I’ve gained so so much!
@mellymeep y’all are precious together. I’m so happy to hear your story.
@mellymeep Eeee!! You make an adorable couple! Thank you for sharing your story! :D

@mellymeep Congrats!

I transitioned after my spouse and I got together. We just celebrated nineteen years in the relationship last week.

In two more years, our love will be old enough to buy weed in Washington! ^v^

@mellymeep
All by itself that story warms my heart.