In the first few months after my wife came out to me I spent a lot of time being constantly asked “are you going to stay together” so much so that it made me doubt myself. “Success” stories of ppl staying together through a transition and especially when they are married are still elusive to find so I like to be as visible as possible about it. It’s been near enough four years now & watching her become the woman she wanted to be has been an honour.
I’m not a special or honourable person, before Nicki came out I am ashamed to say I knew very little about transgender identities so it’s been a wild ride for both of us. But it is possible, it was the best thing that ever happened not just for her but for me because it gave me permission to start exploring parts of my sexuality and identity that I never felt ownership of.
A decade ago when we got married we both thought we were a heterosexual couple and now we’re two massive lesbian wives isn’t that wild