Jürgen HubertMy poll has concluded, and it has confirmed my suspicions - a lot of men (myself included) have not really been socialized to talk openly about their emotions.
This might be a generational thing - I grew up in 1980s Germany, and I think younger generations are getting better at this. It might also be a matter of education - while I have PhD, I am from a working class family.
But it definitely was, and is, a problem. The default assumption always was that men had to stand on their own, that men had to cope with anything life threw at them, that any man who could _not_ cope with things was weak and deserving of contempt - and the only "negative emotion" that was acceptable to show was anger and rage.
Which is messed up - if we are not free to talk about our emotions, then how are we supposed to work through them other than trial and error? I do know that it took me many years to work though my own issues.
I think this is a great contributor to #ToxicMasculinity . Don't get me wrong, none of this excuses the men who embrace it for their actions. They have full agency, and own their toxic behavior. But when you are taught that anger is the only negative emotion that you can publicly express, then embracing it can become very tempting.
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This article on #masculinity and talking about emotions got me thinking, and I am curious how men around here are socialized to talk about emotions. #feminism #GenderRole https://slate.com/news-and-politics/2025/04/christian-men-donald-trump-masculinity-crisis.html [ ] I am a man, and I was socialized to talk about my emotions with other men [ ] I am a man, and I was socialized to talk about my emotions with women [ ] I am a man, and I was NOT socialized to talk about my emotions with other men [ ] I am a man, and I was NOT socialized to talk about my emotions with women [ ] I am not a man, but I want to see the poll results
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