They used the simplest terms. The terms of a three year old. Orla said, “I’m not a boy or a girl.”

I thought they were saying, “I’m both/and.” Which is to say, I’m like you.

But I was wrong.

https://gender-defiant.ghost.io/the-limits-of-my-queerness/

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Adventures in #GenderCreativeParenting:

me: yeh so they're 2 now, and they're really...
acquaintance with conservative vibes: hang on, did you have a boy or a girl?
me: so we're doing this weird thing called gender creative parenting, we're not saying he or she, we're just saying they to remind us not to try to restrict their choices in toys, activities etc...
acquaintence: oh ok
me: yeh so now they're 2 they're really into...
acquaintance: wait but are they a boy or a girl
me: yeh like I said we're not really calling them either of those right now until they tell us otherwise, we're just saying they....
acquaintance: but when they were born what... wait so what you're saying is it doesn't really matter!
me: exactly!
acquaintance: oh I get it!
[normal conversations resumes]

So many new people!

Hi there, my name is Ravna Marin Siever, I'm a white, autistic, disabled, non binary lesbian and parent of three to five kids.
I wrote a book on #GenderCreativeParenting (published in German only as of now).
I live in Berlin, Germany in a polyamourous patchwork family.

I'm most likely to toot about #GenderCreativeParenting, #GenderIssues in general, #disability & #autism and boost more than I write myself.

Welcome <3