I have a serious question for the #transfem #transfeminine #transfemme communities; as a boy wearing dresses (I am transmasc, male-appearing on T post top-surgery, my gender identity is queer and boy depending on the time of day or what way the wind is blowing) as now that my masculinity doesn't feel threatened every day (not quite the words I want there; I don't know how to explain it other than that there's a huge metaphorical and physical weight off my chest now, and it unlocked doors that I had chained and barred shut for so long) I feel much freer to enjoy the feminine side of me that I truly neglected pre-transition.

I wear both dresses and skirts, especially ones that were mine pre-transition,. to paraphrase Suzy Izzard, it's just me wearing a dress, not cross-dressing or anything, just expressing myself in ways I never felt comfortable to as a girl.

there's some pictures of me hanging out around this account under the tag #SelfieADay, including a recent one of me wearing a dress. I'm 5'5", what's trying to grow into a full beard but mostly is on the sides and under my chin at least an inch and a half full length, about an inch practical length because it's curly. visible chest hair, back hair, leg hair etc that I have no interest in removing, and my hair is buzzed but it's always covered for religious reasons and some leftover modesty practise from pre-transition.

I'd like to hear anything someone (trans, fem inclined in whatever way, not interested in hearing from other trans masc folk except if someone also dresses in gender-transgessive fashion and has experience doing so outside of drag circumstances or whatever; local #blorbo folks also welcome to chime in regardless of identity/identification) feels is important to say so that I can make sure I'm respectful to y'all's communities etc. I never want anything I do to negatively impact other trans people, and I very much try to educate people when I have spoons that anyone can wear a dress, etc.

I am also fortunate enough to be in Los Angeles, and while I'm not in the heart of gay territory down here, I am also not out in 47-supporter land; and most comments I get are supportive (where I thank them and them gently inform them that I'm male and this is for comfort and fun) or compliments.

I bought what's probably going to be my primary summer sundress today (in three colours all the exact same dress because I am That Kind of autistic lmao). it has pockets, not quite enough for my phone but my vape can go in there and such. and it's super comfortable and therefore the same sort of same clothes I do with men's clothing.

so yeah. open forum, be nice, if you're rude I'm going to show you the door. I know I'm friends with a lot of transfem folks, I am mostly interested in their opinions over strangers'.

haha oops almost hit the character count over here.

for a belated addition to #SelfieADay, April 18, 2018. I think @inoru_no_hoshi and I had known each other in person all of less than two weeks. a rare shot that I'll actually post a picture from my hair being uncovered.

looking at these pictures now, it's so, so obvious even though it took us most of at least six months for us to be even half aware.

Well gays and theys. It's time for my quarterly raid of the long tall Sally sale section

In an effort to give a crap about myself I'm going to bombard you with outfit pics and stuff like that. Just FYI

But for now I am wearing a hoodie I've had since Tony Blair was Prime Minister

#selfieaday 4

Said to myself I'd do a selfie or photo at least once a day no matter how dull my day is.
So
#selfieaday 1:
Been for lunch with my bro and talked wrestlemania.
Ran errands for medication for both me and a rat.

Look like pants and feel emotionally fragile

#SelfieADay not really a selfie. just a picture of the handful of medications I take every night (marked sensitive out of respect to people for whom it's maybe triggering).

I've gotten used to it. it's about 17 individual pills. it's a part of my reality, and it's the price I pay for mental health and physical well… as good as I can get. I take almost as many in the morning.

there are twelve? medications and another three OTCs on the top level of my cart that I use for a medication cart/nightstand. there's an additional two that are injections, and I'm not as good at doing those as I should be. everything for that all gotten together might be a future 'selfie' idk.

sometimes I manage to take them all at once. tonight was not one of those nights.

#SelfieADay this is my answer to two people telling me to smile yesterday. fuck them, fuck that, and then they kept trying to mess around with me after I made clear I neither did that nor wanted to and especially when told to.

I had really hoped that I'd left behind with being this far into transition and this was with several people who didn't know I was trans to begin with.

anyway fuck those guys I look good today.

request for alt text if someone can write it in DIRECT MESSAGE reply to this. don't clog the thread.