Find myself trimming my beard today. Hate doing it but people do make comments about 'looking homeless'.
I fight with having to trim it to look 'respectable' - many people judge on first appearance, they forget some people have trauma about this?
No, not 'anyone can do it'!
Like ageism & ableism, lookism & body fascism are still bigotries it's OK to have...if you don't do these things, you get comments about how 'easy' it is to groom yourself, how you're letting the side down by not keeping up this weird standard that apparenrtly no-one likes to do, but everyone does?
Isn't the problem with these weird policing of other people's bodies & assumptions that someone with a long unkempt beard - or in some places just a beard however groomed - is 'dirty' and 'can't be trusted'? Old wives tales...but weirdly prevalent.
Hating our own nature is toxic but oddly very common, and policing of bodies is not just a femme presenting thing...that straitjacket is sadly for everyone, if maybe less severe.
