The Backlash of Acknowledging the Full Dominican Heritage

Introduction

It all started with a comment. I came across a video by @naturallyyuly where she eloquently broke down how much of Dominican culture—especially our food—is deeply influenced by our African roots, even though many Dominicans continue to romanticize and prioritize our Spanish heritage. Inspired by her words, I decided to share my personal experience living in Europe and interacting with Spaniards.

I wrote about how, during my time there, I noticed many Spaniards looked down on me. They called me “sudaca,” a derogatory term for South Americans, and made it clear they viewed me as uncultured, impolite, and lacking decorum. My comment wasn’t an attack—it was my lived experience. Yet the backlash I received was swift and, interestingly enough, came mostly from fellow Dominicans.

This is one of the posts in a series exploring the comments I received and what they reveal about our collective identity, our need to protect the illusion of being “only Spaniards,” and the harm that comes from rejecting the rest of our heritage.

The Comment That Sparked a Reaction

One of the first replies stood out immediately:
“58 million Spanish in Spain, and you talked to how many? I live in Madrid, and not even one Spaniard had ever said anything like that, so I guess you don’t have all the true.”

It’s a dismissive comment, one that immediately invalidates my lived experience. My reply was simple:
“I take it from your comment that you found my opinion offensive and probably would have something to say along the lines of ‘not all Spaniards.’ Your opinion is valid, as mine is. Besos y abrazos.”

Instead of engaging in meaningful dialogue, they doubled down, accusing me of “victim mentality” and telling me to “stop assuming for others.” At this point, it was clear this wasn’t about understanding—it was about protecting an image.

Here you see that Felipe is trying to debunk my argument by the old adage, ‘Not all.’ He feels that if he can prove that I didn’t talk to every single Spaniard living in the world my argument about the treatment I experienced while living abroad is not valid. Just writing that makes me feel dumb. Nevertheless, I explained to him that we can live right next to each other and experience different things and both experiences are valid. But he didn’t leave it there.

No. He needed to urge me to stop playing the victim and I don’t know who this person thought he was talking to because it was certainly not me. You can see what that comment got him below. I used to tell people “I don’t listen to my own daddy. What makes you think I would listen to you.” I have matured since then and that comment has transmuted to this:

From my experience usually Latine folks that are fully invested in the ‘I don’t have a victim mindset,’ are usually the ones that take microaggressions and sometimes even overt racist comments and actions in stride, while making excuses for the person making them. These Latine folks feel that if they don’t complain, they can show white America that they are better than the other Latine who are crying and complaining about racism. So to drive the point home these Latine folk, distance themselves from Latine or any marginalized person who is a strong advocate against racism or mistreatment. This too is an act of self-hatred which then spills into hatred for other people in their community or from other marginalized identities.

Why Do We Defend the Idea of Being “Only Spaniards”?

But it’s a bigger issue at hand. While I had fun during this interaction and fully embraced my villain era, this exchange speaks to a larger issue within the Dominican community: the aggressive defense of our “Spanishness” at the expense of our African and Taino heritage. It’s as if acknowledging the fullness of our roots is seen as an attack on our identity rather than an opportunity to celebrate the richness of who we are.

But why?

  • Colonial Legacy: For centuries, whiteness and European heritage have been upheld as ideals in Dominican society. This legacy has made many Dominicans internalize the idea that being associated with Africa or indigeneity is something to be ashamed of.
  • Self-Image: Many of us cling to the idea of being “descendants of Spaniards” because it’s tied to a sense of status, sophistication, and pride. Questioning that narrative feels like questioning our worth.
  • Fear of the “Other”: By rejecting our African roots, we distance ourselves from Blackness and, by extension, Haitians—who have long been scapegoated in Dominican society.

When we deny our full heritage, we don’t just erase our history—we foster self-hatred. This denial fuels the way we view and treat others, especially melanated people, including Haitians.

The Bigger Picture: Aggression as a Defense Mechanism

What struck me most about the comments was the defensiveness. Rather than engaging in a thoughtful conversation, many commenters resorted to invalidation, dismissiveness, or outright hostility. This reaction wasn’t just about my comment—it was about protecting a self-image.

But here’s the thing: If our identity is strong and secure, why does acknowledging African and Taino roots feel like an attack? What are we so afraid of?

Moving Forward

This is just the beginning of a larger conversation. In this series, I’ll explore other comments I received, dissect the arguments, and reflect on what they say about us as Dominicans. I want to dig deeper into:

  • How internalized colonialism shapes our identity.
  • The harm of rejecting our African and Taino heritage.
  • The connections between self-denial and how we treat others, particularly Haitians.

I hope this series sparks reflection and encourages us to embrace the full beauty of our heritage—not just the parts we’ve been told to be proud of.

Conclusion

Acknowledging our full heritage doesn’t diminish us—it enriches us. It allows us to tell the full story of who we are and create a stronger, more inclusive identity. This conversation is uncomfortable, yes, but it’s also necessary. Stay tuned for the next post in this series as we continue to unpack the layers of Dominican identity and the stories we tell ourselves.

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When Identity Sparks a Debate: Navigating Backlash Online

It started with a simple comment—a thoughtful response to a creator’s video about heritage and identity.

https://haveacupofjohanny.com/funny-but-true/2025/01/19/the-observations-from-an-ig-engagement/

I didn’t expect it to gain much attention. The comment gained over 1K likes which prompted me to expand my opinion on a video on YouTube.

https://youtu.be/8hixtPNmxpg

Well the video there also received a lot of views over 1K and has had plenty of its own engagement. As I have the time, I reply to them. Nevertheless, I didn’t expect this to be the thing that a lot of people respond to, let alone spark a debate that would leave me reflecting deeply on how we approach conversations about culture and history online. The reaction I received, ranging from supportive to dismissive, opened my eyes to how divided we can be when it comes to acknowledging where we come from.

This post is part of a series exploring these interactions, what they reveal about our understanding of identity, and why I believe these conversations are more necessary than ever.

The Comment I’m Talking About Here

Once again my stance on this dilemma is that we should acknowledge our full heritage. Dominicans are made up of European, African and Taino ancestry. To ignore one over the other, lends to a lesser understanding of our identity, and culture and at worst, a superiority complex over our Haitian neighbors. Embracing our full heritage is something I deeply resonate with as someone who celebrates cultural identity in my writing. In the video, I shared my perspective, pointing out how denying parts of our history erases valuable lessons for future generations and can even lead to harmful mindsets, like viewing certain groups as “other.”

Still there was a comment that thought my assertion of this idea meant a want or need to control how others thought of themselves.

This comment said (not verbatum):
“Why do you feel the need to control how others think while demanding freedom of thought for yourself?”

At first, it stung. It felt like my intention had been misunderstood. But as I reflected, I realized this was an opportunity to dig deeper—not just into my own beliefs but into why conversations about heritage often spark such strong reactions.

Why Identity Feels Personal

Heritage is deeply personal, and for many, it’s tied to painful histories, systemic inequities, or a desire to move beyond those things. I understand why some people resist these discussions—they can feel like a burden or a reminder of struggles they’d rather leave behind. But to me, acknowledging identity isn’t about dwelling on the past; it’s about learning from it. It’s about making sure that the sacrifices and stories of our ancestors aren’t lost to time.

One of the most common arguments I encountered was that focusing on identity creates division. But here’s the thing: ignoring it doesn’t erase division; it simply makes it harder to address. By acknowledging our shared and unique histories, we can build bridges of understanding rather than walls of misunderstanding.

Lessons Learned from the Backlash

  • Misunderstandings Are Common Online: Written comments lack tone and nuance, which makes misinterpretation easy. It reminded me to approach conversations with extra clarity and patience.
  • Identity is a Sensitive Topic: People bring their own experiences and emotions into these discussions. So my opinion may trigger a memory that prompts someone to be defensive. This reveals how much unspoken pain and confusion surrounds cultural identity.
  • Engagement is a Doorway to Deeper Conversations: Despite the back and forth, the conversation brought more attention to the video and the larger topic of heritage. I enjoyed exchanging ideas with this person and It reaffirmed my belief that these discussions are worth having, even when they’re uncomfortable.
  • Connecting It Back to My Work

    As a writer, themes of identity, culture, and heritage often shape my stories. Whether it’s exploring the complexities of Dominican identity in Under the Flamboyant Tree or weaving cultural elements into my podcast, I believe storytelling is a powerful way to bridge gaps and foster understanding. This experience has inspired me to lean even further into these themes—not just in my creative work but here on my blog.

    What’s Next?

    This is just the beginning. In this series, I’ll share more about:

    • The nuances of heritage and identity in today’s world.
    • How these conversations inspire my writing and podcast topics.
    • Ways we can celebrate our cultures without perpetuating division.

    I’d love to hear from you: Have you had similar experiences navigating conversations about identity? Share your thoughts in the comments or connect with me on social media. Let’s keep this dialogue going.

    Conclusion

    Navigating backlash isn’t easy, but it’s taught me the value of standing firm in what I believe while staying open to understanding other perspectives. Acknowledging our full heritage isn’t about creating division—it’s about building a foundation of truth and connection. And that, I believe, is worth every challenging conversation.

    Stay tuned for the next post in this series. Until then, let’s keep learning, growing, and celebrating who we are—fully and unapologetically.

    Here is the rest of the discussion we had in the comments:

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    Oh dear, this is one of the best music videos I’ve seen, ever. Very, very close to perfect; the dancing, the location, the colours, everything serves the song and adds depth to an utterly captivating and touching piece of music. I love the restraint, the focus on the necessary; it’s like a burning glass on both musical and visual levels. It’s almost like an incantation, or a gospel song, but on the realm of personal experience, which makes it so very relatable.

    “Leave me alone, you bad thoughts. You got it all wrong, missed a spot. You’ve been here too long, be gone, be gone. Be gone, be gone.”

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