How are Americans so outgoing and extroverted and how can I become the same?
https://lemmy.world/post/29863129
How are Americans so outgoing and extroverted and how can I become the same? - Lemmy.World
I hope this question is not too weird (if so just tell me and I’ll delete it).
As a 21 year old guy from Germany I always admired Americans. What particularly
impressed me was their social skills, their outgoing/confident nature and humor.
I don’t know if it’s also connected with being a German but I’m generally a very
shy and introverted person. I have very strong social anxiety and just when
someone in public or a neighbor sees me, it creates this overwhelming anxiety
because I’m so scared that I will embarrass myself and be awkward because I have
very bad self esteem and don’t know what to say and how to act. So most of the
time I end up saying nothing and hiding myself which is very awkward or I say
the bare minimum like to the grocery store cashier like only “Hello” and
“Thanks, bye”. Germans might often generally be introverted or awkward but I’m
on a whole different level. Then Americans seem like this stark contrast which
feels like the exact opposite. It feels like Americans are on a different level
of confidence and extroversion than any country I know. That makes it almost
impossible for me to interact with an American as it creates this immense
pressure on me (also cause English isn’t my native language). Even on a daily
basis the way they’re having small talks in grocery stores or talk to strangers
that they’re walking by seems impossible for me. And I’m afraid that if I ever
would go to the US and people talk to me that I would be extremely awkward and
don’t say anything and wouldn’t be able to smile. And I’m afraid that this might
come over as rude and they think bad of me. I really would wanna interact with
an American in person cause it seems like it could be so enriching but right now
that seems impossible. I was wondering if there is anything particular that
makes Americans so good at that or if they have any secret. Or maybe they’re
just on a different level cause they’re from the best country in the world and
are the best/most capable people in the world. Cause it’s my ultimate dream to
be on that same level and interact with people like Americans. Maybe it’s
impossible for me to get to anything near that and I will simply never be good
enough.
Yes that’s exactly it! I definitely realized that and it makes me extremely mad especially when it comes to my parents and particularly my dad. It’s like you have to do it in that specific way that they think is the only correct way even though that way doesn’t even make any sense. But they will fucking lecture you about it as if you’re stupid or something and tell you you’re not living correctly. Such retarded mf’s😤
Lol, I like that XD. But it’s probably true. I think there might be something about Germans that makes them overly efficient/structured to the point where they lose the humor and warmth. Like as if they lack being “casual” and seem very uptight. Does that make sense?
Is life actually that much harder in America compared to other countries? I’ve watched a YouTuber who moved from Germany to America and he said Americans are working way much more and have less free time. Is that true?
Would you say people/life is more cruel in America or Germany?
https://lemmy.world/post/25314575
Would you say people/life is more cruel in America or Germany? - Lemmy.World
21 year old German here. This question is for Americans who have been to Germany
before (or might’ve had any interaction with Germans). And I know there are a
lot of Americans on this platform who bash and hate on their own country but I
hope to get an answer that’s as truthful and unbiased as possible. So as someone
who’s very sensitive I always felt like people here are way too cruel and
direct. It’s a prevalent stereotype that Germans are very direct and cold. I
know that a big part of this is my own perception and mental state that will
cause these types of perceptions independent from the country because there will
always be assholes. But I wonder if it could be true that some of my observation
might actually be because Germans might actually be more cruel. If you guys are
really honest I wonder if it is possible that Americans might be slightly more
nice than Germans and which country you think is actually more cruel in general.
(Hope this question is not too stupid)
What is all that unnecessary attack for? Have you even ever been to Germany? My therapy got paid with normal insurance. Just gave the therapist the card to scan and that was it. I had 2 appointments every week for years. That was at least my experience as a now 21 year old German.
So you would say America is better in this regard?
Holy hell, is this real? Do they actually say “ASAP” in the letter? That feels threatening
Would you say it’s more about not having enough therapists in Germany or having too many people who seek them. Cause when it comes to the amount of therapists there always have been some in the areas I lived even in small towns. The problem for me was always to get an appointment cause they already had lots of patients and requests for new patients and were overwhelmed by that.
How prevalent is the topic of mental health in America?
https://lemmy.world/post/25304769
How prevalent is the topic of mental health in America? - Lemmy.World
Hey there, I’m from Germany and have mental health issues such as depression and
was wondering how prevalent this topic is in America. Here in Germany this topic
has become extremely normal and pretty much everyone seems to openly talk about
it even with strangers sometimes. We have a lot of therapists but it’s often
hard to get an appointment since medical care in Germany is free and they have
overwhelming numbers of people and the therapists don’t have enough availability
to accommodate everyone. The therapists I had so far were pretty good since they
really seemed to care about me and often did overtime and such to talk. I wonder
if it’s similar in America that a lot of people go to therapy and openly talk
about mental health. What is the situation in America like? Do you have many
therapists (especially in rural areas) and how easy is it to get in/finance? Or
would you say this topic is generally more frowned upon in America in
comparison?
