How are Americans so outgoing and extroverted and how can I become the same?
https://lemmy.world/post/29863129
How are Americans so outgoing and extroverted and how can I become the same? - Lemmy.World
I hope this question is not too weird (if so just tell me and I’ll delete it).
As a 21 year old guy from Germany I always admired Americans. What particularly
impressed me was their social skills, their outgoing/confident nature and humor.
I don’t know if it’s also connected with being a German but I’m generally a very
shy and introverted person. I have very strong social anxiety and just when
someone in public or a neighbor sees me, it creates this overwhelming anxiety
because I’m so scared that I will embarrass myself and be awkward because I have
very bad self esteem and don’t know what to say and how to act. So most of the
time I end up saying nothing and hiding myself which is very awkward or I say
the bare minimum like to the grocery store cashier like only “Hello” and
“Thanks, bye”. Germans might often generally be introverted or awkward but I’m
on a whole different level. Then Americans seem like this stark contrast which
feels like the exact opposite. It feels like Americans are on a different level
of confidence and extroversion than any country I know. That makes it almost
impossible for me to interact with an American as it creates this immense
pressure on me (also cause English isn’t my native language). Even on a daily
basis the way they’re having small talks in grocery stores or talk to strangers
that they’re walking by seems impossible for me. And I’m afraid that if I ever
would go to the US and people talk to me that I would be extremely awkward and
don’t say anything and wouldn’t be able to smile. And I’m afraid that this might
come over as rude and they think bad of me. I really would wanna interact with
an American in person cause it seems like it could be so enriching but right now
that seems impossible. I was wondering if there is anything particular that
makes Americans so good at that or if they have any secret. Or maybe they’re
just on a different level cause they’re from the best country in the world and
are the best/most capable people in the world. Cause it’s my ultimate dream to
be on that same level and interact with people like Americans. Maybe it’s
impossible for me to get to anything near that and I will simply never be good
enough.
Would you say people/life is more cruel in America or Germany?
https://lemmy.world/post/25314575
Would you say people/life is more cruel in America or Germany? - Lemmy.World
21 year old German here. This question is for Americans who have been to Germany
before (or might’ve had any interaction with Germans). And I know there are a
lot of Americans on this platform who bash and hate on their own country but I
hope to get an answer that’s as truthful and unbiased as possible. So as someone
who’s very sensitive I always felt like people here are way too cruel and
direct. It’s a prevalent stereotype that Germans are very direct and cold. I
know that a big part of this is my own perception and mental state that will
cause these types of perceptions independent from the country because there will
always be assholes. But I wonder if it could be true that some of my observation
might actually be because Germans might actually be more cruel. If you guys are
really honest I wonder if it is possible that Americans might be slightly more
nice than Germans and which country you think is actually more cruel in general.
(Hope this question is not too stupid)
How prevalent is the topic of mental health in America?
https://lemmy.world/post/25304769
How prevalent is the topic of mental health in America? - Lemmy.World
Hey there, I’m from Germany and have mental health issues such as depression and
was wondering how prevalent this topic is in America. Here in Germany this topic
has become extremely normal and pretty much everyone seems to openly talk about
it even with strangers sometimes. We have a lot of therapists but it’s often
hard to get an appointment since medical care in Germany is free and they have
overwhelming numbers of people and the therapists don’t have enough availability
to accommodate everyone. The therapists I had so far were pretty good since they
really seemed to care about me and often did overtime and such to talk. I wonder
if it’s similar in America that a lot of people go to therapy and openly talk
about mental health. What is the situation in America like? Do you have many
therapists (especially in rural areas) and how easy is it to get in/finance? Or
would you say this topic is generally more frowned upon in America in
comparison?
How prevalent is the topic of mental health in America compared to Germany?
https://lemmy.world/post/25304678
How prevalent is the topic of mental health in America compared to Germany? - Lemmy.World
Hey there, I’m from Germany and have mental health issues such as depression and
was wondering how prevalent this topic is in America. Here in Germany this topic
has become extremely normal and pretty much everyone seems to openly talk about
it even with strangers sometimes. We have a lot of therapists but it’s often
hard to get an appointment since medical care in Germany is free and they have
overwhelming numbers of people and the therapists don’t have enough availability
to accommodate everyone. The therapists I had so far were pretty good since they
really seemed to care about me and often did overtime and such to talk. I wonder
if it’s similar in America that a lot of people go to therapy and openly talk
about mental health. What is the situation in America like? Do you have many
therapists and how easy is it to get in/finance? Or would you say this topic is
generally more frowned upon in America in comparison?
How prevalent is the topic of mental health in America compared to Germany?
https://lemmy.world/post/25304676
How prevalent is the topic of mental health in America compared to Germany? - Lemmy.World
Hey there, I’m from Germany and have mental health issues such as depression and
was wondering how prevalent this topic is in America. Here in Germany this topic
has become extremely normal and pretty much everyone seems to openly talk about
it even with strangers sometimes. We have a lot of therapists but it’s often
hard to get an appointment since medical care in Germany is free and they have
overwhelming numbers of people and the therapists don’t have enough availability
to accommodate everyone. The therapists I had so far were pretty good since they
really seemed to care about me and often did overtime and such to talk. I wonder
if it’s similar in America that a lot of people go to therapy and openly talk
about mental health. What is the situation in America like? Do you have many
therapists and how easy is it to get in/finance? Or would you say this topic is
generally more frowned upon in America in comparison?
Do you also have this deep longing/dream of living at a different/fantasy place to feel home?
https://lemmy.world/post/24125387
Do you also have this deep longing/dream of living at a different/fantasy place to feel home? - Lemmy.World
So I’m not sure if this is age related or not. I’m a 21 year old male, maybe you
could share your age as well. So basically for a long time (probably my whole
life) I had this deep longing/fantasy to live at a different place than the one
I’m living right now. As if I don’t belong where I’m from and need to be
somewhere else to truly feel home. I’m from northern Germany and always had the
deep desire of traveling places. When me and my family went on vacation when I
was a kid for example when we flew to Egypt it felt like a wonderful dream as if
I was in heaven or something. I just love when I’m in totally different
environments like coming from the cold Germany into a tropically warm climate,
in a country that is very different, with very different culture and mentality
in this beautiful and gigantic hotel resort. Idk how to describe it but it’s
like my core desire got fulfilled. I never felt home here in Germany and my deep
desire always was to live somewhere else where there is a very different culture
and environment. A significant amount of time I always wanted to go to America.
I’ve never been there so far unfortunately. But I always had this feeling that I
didn’t felt right where I’m from and was always searching for this place where I
can feel home, where it’s wholesome and I feel freed from all worries, where I
have deep/meaningful connections and can fully live in joy and embrace every
little moment of live in this deeply joyful way like living like a child again.
I assume a lot of this is probably just some psychological phenomenon that is
inducing a fake/unreal fantasy. I assume even if I could move to some other
country I might not feel as joyful like when I was a kid and even if I do, at
some point it might not feel special anymore and it might not be like I hoped.
So maybe this is just this classic “the grass seems always greener on the other
side” thing and in reality it might not be like that. But I wonder does any of
you also have this deep inner fantasy of living in a different place/culture
where it kinda feels magical to live and you have ultimate happiness? It might
be something unrealistic or a place that doesn’t exist but it’s like a deep
feeling in me and I wonder if others also have it. Maybe it goes deeper and it
is this “leftover” from childhood that I remember and that I’m longing for?
Maybe it’s a fantasy of being a kid again?
Do you also have this deep longing/dream of living at a different/fantasy place to feel home?
https://lemmy.world/post/24125282
Do you also have this deep longing/dream of living at a different/fantasy place to feel home? - Lemmy.World
So I’m not sure if this is age related or not. I’m a 21 year old male, maybe you
could share your age as well. So basically for a long time (probably my whole
life) I had this deep longing/fantasy to live at a different place than the one
I’m living right now. As if I don’t belong where I’m from and need to be
somewhere else to truly feel home. I’m from northern Germany and always had the
deep desire of traveling places. When me and my family went on vacation when I
was a kid for example when we flew to Egypt it felt like a wonderful dream as if
I was in heaven or something. I just love when I’m in totally different
environments like coming from the cold Germany into a tropically warm climate,
in a country that is very different, with very different culture and mentality
in this beautiful and gigantic hotel resort. Idk how to describe it but it’s
like my core desire got fulfilled. I never felt home here in Germany and my deep
desire always was to live somewhere else where there is a very different culture
and environment. A significant amount of time I always wanted to go to America.
I’ve never been there so far unfortunately. But I always had this feeling that I
didn’t felt right where I’m from and was always searching for this place where I
can feel home, where it’s wholesome and I feel freed from all worries, where I
have deep/meaningful connections and can fully live in joy and embrace every
little moment of live in this deeply joyful way like living like a child again.
I assume a lot of this is probably just some psychological phenomenon that is
inducing a fake/unreal fantasy. I assume even if I could move to some other
country I might not feel as joyful like when I was a kid and even if I do, at
some point it might not feel special anymore and it might not be like I hoped.
So maybe this is just this classic “the grass seems always greener on the other
side” thing and in reality it might not be like that. But I wonder does any of
you also have this deep inner fantasy of living in a different place/culture
where it kinda feels magical to live and you have ultimate happiness? It might
be something unrealistic or a place that doesn’t exist but it’s like a deep
feeling in me and I wonder if others also have it. Maybe it goes deeper and it
is this “leftover” from childhood that I remember and that I’m longing for?
Maybe it’s a fantasy of being a kid again?
Do you also have this deep longing/dream of living at a different/fantasy place to feel home?
https://lemmy.world/post/24125254
Do you also have this deep longing/dream of living at a different/fantasy place to feel home? - Lemmy.World
So I’m not sure if this is age related or not. I’m a 21 year old male, maybe you
could share your age as well. So basically for a long time (probably my whole
life) I had this deep longing/fantasy to live at a different place than the one
I’m living right now. As if I don’t belong where I’m from and need to be
somewhere else to truly feel home. I’m from northern Germany and always had the
deep desire of traveling places. When me and my family went on vacation when I
was a kid for example when we flew to Egypt it felt like a wonderful dream as if
I was in heaven or something. I just love when I’m in totally different
environments like coming from the cold Germany into a tropically warm climate,
in a country that is very different, with very different culture and mentality
in this beautiful and gigantic hotel resort. Idk how to describe it but it’s
like my core desire got fulfilled. I never felt home here in Germany and my deep
desire always was to live somewhere else where there is a very different culture
and environment. A significant amount of time I always wanted to go to America.
I’ve never been there so far unfortunately. But I always had this feeling that I
didn’t felt right where I’m from and was always searching for this place where I
can feel home, where it’s wholesome and I feel freed from all worries, where I
have deep/meaningful connections and can fully live in joy and embrace every
little moment of live in this deeply joyful way like living like a child again.
I assume a lot of this is probably just some psychological phenomenon that is
inducing a fake/unreal fantasy. I assume even if I could move to some other
country I might not feel as joyful like when I was a kid and even if I do, at
some point it might not feel special anymore and it might not be like I hoped.
So maybe this is just this classic “the grass seems always greener on the other
side” thing and in reality it might not be like that. But I wonder does any of
you also have this deep inner fantasy of living in a different place/culture
where it kinda feels magical to live and you have ultimate happiness? It might
be something unrealistic or a place that doesn’t exist but it’s like a deep
feeling in me and I wonder if others also have it. Maybe it goes deeper and it
is this “leftover” from childhood that I remember and that I’m longing for?
Maybe it’s a fantasy of being a kid again?
Do you also have this deep longing/dream of living at a different/fantasy place?
https://lemmy.world/post/24124114
Do you also have this deep longing/dream of living at a different/fantasy place? - Lemmy.World
So I’m not sure if this is age related or not. I’m a 21 year old male, maybe you
could share your age as well. So basically for a long time (probably my whole
life) I had this deep longing/fantasy to live at a different place than the one
I’m living right now. I’m from northern Germany and always had the deep desire
of traveling places. When me and my family went on vacation when I was a kid for
example when we flew to Egypt it felt like a wonderful dream as if I was in
heaven or something. I just love when I’m in totally different environments like
coming from the cold Germany into a tropically warm climate, in a country that
is very different, with very different culture and mentality in this beautiful
and gigantic hotel. Idk how to describe it but it’s like my core desire got
fulfilled. I never felt home here in Germany and my deep desire always was to
live somewhere else where there is a very different culture and environment. A
significant amount of time I always wanted to go to America. I’ve never been
there so far unfortunately. But I always had this feeling that I didn’t felt
right where I’m from and was always searching for this place where I can feel
home, where it’s wholesome and I feel freed from all worries and can fully live
in joy and embrace every little moment of live in this deeply joyful way like
living like a child again. I assume a lot of this is probably just some
psychological phenomenon that is inducing a fake/unreal fantasy. I assume even
if I could move to some other country I might not feel as joyful like when I was
a kid and even if I do, at some point I might not feel special anymore and it
might not be like I hoped. So maybe this is just this classic “the grass seems
always greener on the other side” thing and in reality it might not be like
that. But I wonder does any of you also have this deep inner fantasy of living
in a different place/culture where it kinda feels magical to live and you have
ultimate happiness? Could this be some inner child “leftover”?
Do you also have this deep longing/dream of living at a different/fantasy place?
https://lemmy.world/post/24124061
Do you also have this deep longing/dream of living at a different/fantasy place? - Lemmy.World
So I’m not sure if this is age related or not. I’m a 21 year old male, maybe you
could share your age as well. So basically for a long time (probably my whole
life) I had this deep longing/fantasy to live at a different place than the one
I’m living right now. I’m from northern Germany and always had the deep desire
of traveling places. When me and my family went on vacation when I was a kid for
example when we flew to Egypt it felt like a wonderful dream as if I was in
heaven or something. I just love when I’m in totally different environments like
coming from the cold Germany into a tropically warm climate, in a country that
is very different, with very different culture and mentality in this beautiful
and gigantic hotel. Idk how to describe it but it’s like my core desire got
fulfilled. I never felt home here in Germany and my deep desire always was to
live somewhere else where there is a very different culture and environment. A
significant amount of time I always wanted to go to America. I’ve never been
there so far unfortunately. But I always had this feeling that I didn’t felt
right where I’m from and was always searching for this place where I can feel
home, where it’s wholesome and I feel freed from all worries and can fully live
in joy and embrace every little moment of live in this deeply joyful way like
living like a child again. I assume a lot of this is probably just some
psychological phenomenon that is inducing a fake/unreal fantasy. I assume even
if I could move to some other country I might not feel as joyful like when I was
a kid and even if I do, at some point I might not feel special anymore and it
might not be like I hoped. So maybe this is just this classic “the grass seems
always greener on the other side” thing and in reality it might not be like
that. But I wonder does any of you also have this deep inner fantasy of living
in a different place/culture where it kinda feels magical to live and you have
ultimate happiness? Could this be some inner child “leftover”?
