Genderfluid, pansexual, demisexual. Pandemic.
He/him.
| Writes | https://medium.com/@yourpoly |
| Reads | https://www.goodreads.com/user/show/26790305-danie |
| Location | South Africa |
@JoshRollins this weekend was hanging with the kids weekend.
And expanding my "to-read" list of books, and not reading almost anything I'm currently reading.
Weekends with kids are weird like that.
A companion broke up with me tonight.
She could not process the idea of me having a sexual partner that is not her.
Even though she's known me for years, and she's known me as poly for all those years.
I'm glad she made a choice that is good for her.
I'm sad that we can't have what he had.
I'm mad that I opened myself up for this hurt.
I'm afraid that this will happen again.
I'm mad at the mainly monogamous mainstream malarky.
I am tired.
Patti Smith describes such a beautiful polycule in her book "Just Kids".
And in general, a new favourite audiobook of mine. She reads it, and the authenticity works for me.
@JoshRollins I use https://jblevins.org/projects/deft and https://github.com/shawnohare/hugo-tufte to publish my incomplete thoughts.
(also, org-mode and ox-jekyll-subtree.el for conversations that I capture and publish on a different site)
... if ever you are in South Africa, would love to buy you a drink :-D
@JoshRollins in an environment that's quite christian and conservative - I found a gay buddhist therapist.
... who could not get beyond his frame of "the libido connects to one only".
Had this argument every second session until it wasn't fun anymore.
@JoshRollins this not needing to explain, is big for me.
My current therapist is the best I've had on this. And they still require me to explain/validate more than I expect mono/vanilla would need to. It's tiring.
Poly things:
A "comet" is back in my orbit. She has this habit of getting into an intense dance with me, then leaving for months. This has been going on for 3 years.
Then, I'm visiting my longish-distance companion this long-weekend. Lots of walking in woods planned.
The in-town companion and I are doing salsa classes from next week.
Poly life is satisfying right now 😃
@JoshRollins https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/35239798-the-courage-to-be-disliked I've read twice, in succession. It agrees with many of my beliefs, then challenges a view of them quite a lot.
And enjoying One Hundred Years of Solitude right now.