Shadow Firebird

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"If nothing we do matters, then all that matters is what we do."
Show threadShadow FirebirdAug 31, 2018
@dzuk @shadowfirebird
Dude, the fact that you are still @-ing me defending yourself *after I walked out the door* speaks volumes.
You have a lot of power here.
Do better.
For the *other people* that are *still here*.
Show threadShadow FirebirdAug 31, 2018
(Huh. Posting this in UK AM probably means that almost no-one will see this, doesn't it? Well, whatever.)
Show threadShadow FirebirdAug 31, 2018
I've been bullied on and off for most of my life in one way or another, and I simply won't stay in a place that condones bullying, even for what appears to be a good reason.
I want to specifically thank everyone who shared 'this is what it means to be ASD' conversation with me, because you really helped me understand that I was genuinely autistic as a kid, not 'sort of' 'maybe' or 'a bit'.
Take care, everyone.
Shadow FirebirdAug 31, 2018
Folks, I'm leaving the fediverse, and specifically Weirder Earth, for a while. Maybe for good.
When I got here I felt at home, safe, part of a community. I'm a pagan otherkin who's not at all comfortable talking about all that online, so that was a big deal for me.
Since the bullying attitude towards WW, I don't feel safe here anymore. I know most of you thought you were doing the right thing, and all of you had good motivation for what you said, but, that doesn't change how safe I feel. …
Shadow FirebirdAug 30, 2018
@kiilas @mykola
If self defense is not abuse then it's okay to block a whole bunch of people, yes? And then defend those actions?
Show threadShadow FirebirdAug 30, 2018
@dzuk And did he actually do these things? What were they supposed to have been?
Don't feel you have to answer, sorry, I'm not in a good mood. But these are questions you might want to have answers to, as a mod.
I know I don't have an answer to either one. But that's not important.
Show threadShadow FirebirdAug 30, 2018
@dzuk What makes you think he did anything at all to solicit a negative response?
On Twitter?
Sorry, but that sounds a bit too much like 'well the police arrested him so he must have done something wrong…'
Show threadShadow FirebirdAug 30, 2018
@aral @shadowfirebird @Elizafox
No, no.
Standing by your friends means giving them the benefit of the doubt and defending them to others. This does NOT EXCLUDE telling them they are idiots to their face -- in private, not in public. Or you are no friend.
This is exactly as it should be -- ethically, emotionally -- right up until the point it turns out your friend has serious issues that have harmed people. At which point it becomes a problem.
Show threadShadow FirebirdAug 30, 2018
@Elizafox I could understand a little if it was for the Chris Hardwick thing -- understand but not respect: as I learned myself recently, you stand by your friends right or wrong, and the failure mode for that if they turn out to be a lying arsehole that hurt others is slow and difficult, ethically.
Show threadShadow FirebirdAug 30, 2018
@Elizafox @aral
This whole thing has been confusing and depressing to me, not least since as a cisdude I don't feel I *deserve* an opinion or an answer.
People I *like* here have behaved as if hating WW was a _given_, like he was a Nazi or something.
I have still no idea why, and the uncomfortable thought is, maybe they don't, either.
Dropping back to my default state I guess: most people are shit until proved otherwise.