I have no idea if any of this is coherent, I'm just Feeling Thoughts and Thinking Emotions right now and wanted to babble a little bit to get it all out.
I think it's less healthy to think of friendships as two people fixing each other and more as like, lock and key. We've all got a particular set of skills, experiences, strengths, etc. that can help unlock certain aspects of character growth in our friends, but not all of them, and that's OK. Just the contribution we make is meaningful. And downplaying it as being not enough is... kind of insulting to the growth we DO incite in others.
Like maybe this is something particular to me and my particular set of anxieties and insecurities but there seems to be this feeling that if we're someone's friend we have to be able to do everything for them, and that's noble, but not usually possible. We're not anime wise-person characters that dispense the correct aphorism or unlock the protagonist's power at the pivotal moment, at least not for EVERYONE. We're people, with limitations.
You know, I think it's an important recognition to have that you don't have to be anyone's everything. Like you don't have to be the one that says the Right Thing that saves their day, their week, their life. You don't have to be the one that they fall in love with and have their happily ever after with. You can just be their friend and keep them going til they find those people, and that's just as good, just as noble, and just as fulfilling.
"When queers are discriminated in the hiring process for being too gender deviant, too campy, too out, it is because we jarringly disrupt the capitalist fantasy of a brainless, emotionless, machine-like worker." - Queer Liberation is Class Struggle
Damn, that's such a good take, though.
Been taking my vitamins that are supposed to help me experience Energy for weeks, every day, faithfully. Why am I still constantly tired.
okay. even if you're NOT a flaming commie (somehow), how doesn't this book cover GRAB you with its darling aesthetic and earnest promise?
Got medically recommended to lose 15 lbs, and now at the end of the semester, I've GAINED 15 pounds.
My life is about to start getting busier.
Religion (or lack there of) as an opiate to make oneself feel absolved of responsibility to the material world and feel good about how Pious They Are:
Religion as a lens to explore the higher mysteries, to pursue self betterment, and to motivate oneself to ravenously pursue piety and devotion towards their fellow people by making the world a more divine place for all:
People who think they can insult me by calling me a communist are funny.
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