Well first off, women complaining about their life is an old and boring history. Especially considering that many people have to fight a lot harder, not because of their sex, but because of their financial circumstances.
Second: life is hard and has always been hard. Don’t expect from life not to be a fight. Everyone on this world has to fight for their right to exist in some way or another. So don’t complain about it. Fight it. If you still encounter the same problem as a 50 year old, then change your attitude.
First problem: self sexualisation. Stop wearing stuff that sexualises you. Men don’t wear stuff that sexualises them. Stop it. Life is a fight and you should dress appropriately for combat. Maybe not camouflage, but pants, closed low heel boots. Then your attitude: Fight people verbally the way you fight me. Just leave out the victim role (it makes you appear weak). Speaking about your emotions will not change them. And the last part: defend yourself physically. Carry a knife, or carry a kubotan if you don’t want to be seen with a knife.
I am half your age, but I have already known for years that you cannot escape the bullshit. (Especially since everyone believes to be right and the rest are idiots. I think so myself). You have to be ready to encounter the bullshit.
Bullshit finds you, no matter where you hide.
Just block them yourself. No need to force the defederation on everybody. I want to know what they are up to. And I want to argue with them whenever I want to.
Defederating from them is the same moral high ground shit we saw on Reddit. Furthermore defederating for laughable reasons (and the examples provided are weak af) is just further damaging the fediverse.