others say she had the right to say that because she was hurt and my girlfriend should have said yes

Nobody normal with average or above intelligence would say that

Sooo…you did, right?

I hear that Metallica is the safest band to take through an airport because they haven’t set off a metal detector since 1989.

“Hey I wonder if anyone posted the Gow-yup.”

Me, just now.

My ex and I are gonna hook up this weekend.

No that’s actually perfectly okay.

I mean you would think…

Don’t touch liquid nitrogen with your bare hands.

Don’t touch glowing metal with your bare hands.

Don’t touch exposed wire with your bare hands.

I find myself thinking about this more and more as I get closer to retirement. I’m hoping that I get enough sufficient notice of my own death that I have time to close my checking/savings accounts, help liquidate any property I have that my kids don’t want, and convert as much as possible to cash. I intend to tell my family that any debt collectors that come knocking are to be told, in no uncertain terms, to fuck all the way off.

Maybe I’m just lazy.

I believe this statement may be the cause of your discomfort. If you have things to do, and you’re idle, taking a break, a nap, having a meal, or doing something fun, that self talk is going to rear its ugly little head and kill any joy you might be taking in your down time.

So if you’re looking for a more healthy state of being, I’d suggest reflecting on where that comes from. Were you taught that your value is in being constantly productive and that rest is shameful, for example? Find that and learn to quash the influence it has on your self worth. And again, that work is best done with a professional’s help.