@mindpersephone absolutely, cw's I'm so behind. You've always cw'd well from memory which is great because I like a lot of people do have limits and triggers in some lewd content. But I can just look at the cw's, and not read it. And if I do read it anyway (I'm also not very bright so this happens) that's kinda on me.

The "shame I'm not into this" has been on my mind recently too with d/s dynamics. I've seen people post "I want someone to dominate" type comment and the first response will be "oh shame I want to dominate you" or vice versa "I'm a sub" and "shame, I'm a sub too and I want to be dominated". I know I've done it before, but I'm trying to be conscious about it because it's either blaming a creator like you for writing something not aimed at someone, or worse blaming a person for not being the right kind of lewd target for them.

Sorry that got away from me a bit obviously I was more annoyed about it than I thought 😅

Does anyone have any tips or advice on how to become a top/domme (using them mildly interchangeably here). I'm pretty much exclusively a sub/bottom but it's not getting me very far and I can't help but see how all of my relationships would be easier if it wasn't a "they were both bottoms" situation.

The problem is I don't normally get any enjoyment out of domming (sometimes topping if I'm subbing) and I just generally wish someone was doing that to me so I'm looking for ideas of ways to shift that and become domme.

@Liophora @flesh it's a reference to how girlcock.club was added to a large scale anti-racism blocklist called the bad space with the only reason being "unfortunate branding".

The blocklist creator (who didn't add your instance, it's an amalgamation of blocklist from like 5 gatekeeper servers) removed that and that server stopped contributing to the bad space.

However there was a super racist backlash from a lot of servers aimed at the creator, which is why I'm not tagging anything because I don't want to be targeted either.

Unfortunately it became very quickly racism vs transphobia and escalated and got really stupid, so now loads of servers are disconnected from each other.