I am still unlearning hustle culture, my goodness.

I'm having quite a nice and calm Saturday, even having helped out at the local community this morning. The rest of the day has been absolutely in my own time. I even napped.

But my brain keeps trying to tell me to be productive... without compassion or Grace.
"Your home needs care."
"You should exercise."
"You have time now. Go be creative."
"The garden needs tending."
"Goodness, why can't you just do ANY of these things? You know they are good for you."

But I know that's not me.
It is my thoughts, that have learned what a human (like me) should spend her time on.. How she should be. What she should act and think. What her opinions should be.

I feel a deep sense of calm beneath it all. A sense of presence and "now-ness", that no productivity or effectiveness or goals setting can campare to.

I really love my drive and my ambition. But I am also starting to love my own rhythm and time.

Having stepped away from "9-5", or at least something that resembles it. I truly feel grateful to be able to decide when and where to work.
But it has to be at the cost of letting go of hustle culture. Otherwise I'll burn out. And I don't want that.

And that's what I'm heading in my brain... The burnout thoughts. But I'm letting them go.

I'm setting a boundary here. A line.
My life is my own, and I get to choose the thoughts I will listen to.
And the ones I have written above, are the ones I no longer choose to listen to.

I no longer listen to the thoughts that demean me, belittle me, berate me, bullies me. For they are not my thoughts.

I choose love. Peace. Joy. Authenticity. Realness. All the good stuff, that enriches my life, and not just makes me go faster to my grave.

And apropos productivity.
I am a business. I do offer things.

So far, I do offer a membership - the Feel Good Rebel Academy. Hang out with me, and experience life's deliciousness.
Audio activation. Ask for more. 😊
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Bill and Ted's bogus journey.

A formative film from when I was a kid.
Think I also fell for the burtonesque set design then, before I knew of tim burton, whose style I am a massive fan of, since I watched the nightmare before Christmas, when that came out.

Also stargate made a big impression, with the gender fluid god-person Ra.

What films have made an impact for you?

Your nervous system is not trying to block you, or trying to hold you back.

It’s just trying to keep you safe.

Even when you’re not in danger anymore.

Even when you’re ready for more.

And I know - it can feel frustrating.

To want to move. To create. To show up.

But feel your whole body tense, freeze, or shut down.

But that doesn't need to be the whole story - it's information from your body to you.

And the way forward is not to push harder.

It’s to move softer.

That’s where ritual comes in.

Not aesthetic ritual.

Not picture-perfect, candle-lit perfection.

I’m talking about the kind of ritual that feels real.

The kind that slows your breath.

Reminds you who you are.

And helps your body trust you again.

A ritual is anything you do with intention.

Something that feels good.

Something you return to - to shape your life from the inside out.

And that’s what we practice inside Feel Good Rebel Academy.

Rituals that regulate.

Reflections that anchor.

A community that knows this isn’t about fixing yourself… it’s about returning to yourself.

You ready?

✨ Click the link in my profile to join 💃

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Look at this fluffykins! 😍

And the orange cat is his friend...

#cat

How did you learn to socialise?

I am genuinely curious, because I got to thinking about my youth and the way I've been around people.

Personally I didn't learn to really connect with people. Or find a place in a community. So I just tried to figure out how to be...

Thinking about my school years, learning to be with other kids...
Thinking about my mother and my grandparents, and family, learning to be with elders....
Thinking about peer, both in my private life and professional life, learning to find my place there...
Thinking about my somewhat chaotic youth and young adulthood, with less than desired self control (and compassion).

How did I learn...?
What was I taught directly, and what did I pick up subconsciously?

Honestly, I don't feel like I was taught any proper socialising skills. And I am not blaming anyone, just pondering. But I feel, looking back, that some support in communication, emotional regulation and mutuality could have gone a long way...

Fortunately that's where I am now. And learning for myself, and sharing my thoughts about.

But I'm genuinely curious to hear your thoughts about where you learned to socialise...

And is there a difference, being a man, woman, agender, etc? As we learn...?

#curiosity #community #connection

Okay... about Friday the 13th…

We were told it was unlucky. Suspicious. A day to be feared.

Black cats, broken mirrors, bad omens.

Before the superstition, before the fear, Friday the 13th was sacred.

The number 13 shows up everywhere in feminine cycles.

13 lunar months in a year.

13 bleeding cycles in many bodies.

A number deeply tied to the moon, to rhythm, to intuition, to life.
And Friday was the day of the Goddess.

Named for Freya in Norse myth - the goddess of sex, love, war, beauty, death, and magic.

The one who made softness powerful and rage holy.

Other cultures honoured Venus. The Divine Feminine.

This was a day of devotion.

Of gathering in circles and remembering we were never meant to live on straight lines.

Well… then patriarchy happened.

Somewhere along the way, anything cyclical, embodied, or woman-aligned became “dangerous.”

13 was cursed.

Bleeding became shameful.

Witches became threats.

Wisdom that lived in the body not the book became deeply suspect.
And so the spiral was replaced with a ladder.

A race. A calendar. A pressure to perform.

But here’s the thing.

We remember.

Our bodies remember.

The rhythm never left.

So now, when Friday the 13th shows up… I don’t shrink.

I reclaim it.

As a day to honour everything the old world tried to erase:

My wildness.

My intuition.

My timing.

It doesn’t matter if you follow the moon.

It doesn’t matter what body you’re in.

You have permission to believe your body.

And if you want to do that in community… I made one.

It’s called Feel Good Rebel Academy.

It’s about remembering you were always powerful - even when the world told you otherwise.

✨ Click the link in my profile

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You’re not just unmotivated.
You’re not just lazy or broken.

You’re just exhausted from trying to grow inside a system that keeps you in survival mode.

Motivation is not the problem.

It’s the pressure.

The constant bracing.

The voice that says “you’ll be worthy when you’ve done more.”

But love… what you really need isn’t another strategy.

You need a safe container.

A space to exhale.

To feel your own rhythm again.

To remember that you don’t have to perform for your healing to be real.

That’s why I created Feel Good Rebel Academy - a sacred space to return to yourself.

To work with your energy, not against it.

To grow without abandoning your softness.

You don’t have to hustle to transform.

You just need to be held - by rituals, reflections, and a community that gets it.

✨ Click the link in my profile to join 💃

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There’s something sacred about the moment after a good cry.

The kind of cry that doesn’t just leak out, but breaks something open.

This wasn’t a cute cry.

This was a full-body release.

A sob-from-your-sternum, snot-in-your-hands, old pain leaving your bones kind of cry.

It wasn’t about one thing.

It was about everything.

Years of holding it in.

Years of bracing.

Years of thinking, “I’ll deal with that later…”

And then finally,

my body said: NOW!

And I let go.

I let go of something I didn’t even fully know I was still carrying.

Something that had been blocking connection.

Safety.

Belonging.

Everything I’ve ever wanted.

And in its place, there’s space now.

Space for softness.

For community.

For being with people in a way that feels nourishing and true.

For holding others - because I’ve finally held myself.

This is what healing can look like.

Healing that makes room for everything sacred.

🖤
If you’re in that in-between space - where it hurts, but it’s also healing... where you’ve cried, and now you’re just quiet…

You’re not alone.

I hold spaces for this.

To make room for whatever’s ready to be released, and whatever’s waiting to arrive.

✨ Join me inside Worthy & Rising if this speaks to your soul.
There’s room for you now.

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Self-abandonment doesn’t always look like collapse.

Sometimes it looks like smiling when you want to cry.

Sometimes it looks like saying yes before your body has a chance to answer.

Sometimes it looks like being so “understanding” that you forget you have your own needs.

Let this post be a reckoning, and not something to give you even more shame.

Because the more gently we name these patterns, the more power we get to reclaim.

You don’t have to abandon yourself to belong!

You don’t have to over-explain your no.

You don’t have to earn your softness.

You just get to return.
To your rhythm!
To your body!
To your self-trust!

That’s why I created The Liberation Spell™ - and why it lives inside Feel Good Rebel Academy.

You don’t need more steps.

You need a space that meets you where you are, and walks with you toward who you’re becoming.

✨ Click the link in my profile to join 💃

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Helped out putting up a tent in our village today. There's going to be a week long summer party here next week. 😊

I am also part of the community council (newly elected), which is quite exciting for me. And a great way to get to know even more people in my local community.

I am very aware right now, that I sit a lot whe in not on my walk, and my body is NOT used to physical labour.. Hmmm.. XD I might be a little sore tomorrow.