Imagine this. Imagine you have a bad experience that you see connects to a system that makes this bad experience a likely outcome for you. You can reasonably predict you will have to deal with it for your whole life.
Sit with that, imagine how that feels.
Imagine you do all the work of thinking, researching, dealing, and connecting to others in the same scenario. You also do the work of trying to improve the situation for you and others, and others to come. This is hard, hard work that other people not in your situation don’t have to do.
Imagine that one result is that the system that led to your experience, its historic causes and current harmful impacts, and multiple options for dealing with it, are all now really well documented because of your and others’ moral work, that was exhausting and painful to do.
Now imagine someone from the group who didn’t have to do any of this work comes along and—whatever their well meaning intentions—asks you to just explain it all for them, starting with your own bad experience, to help them understand it and feel better about it.
A simple plan for 2023: let’s not keep asking each other these exasperating and wounding questions, especially the ones that sound like scepticism. Use your imagination, trust the witnesses, do the work of learning for yourself.
It’ll go better.