There seems to be two kinds of personal Carrds:
No personality info or interests, just links to socials and commission info, very professional.
Plastered with everything under the sun, especially all the things that enrage and scare them.
It's easier for me to make fun of the byf/dni thing now that I've realized what an utter waste of time it was for me to do that. I doubt anyone read my huge metric ton of disclaimers unless they were already super interested in me, and if anyone I was trying to explain myself to had read it, there's no way in hell they would have learned anything or changed their initial impression of me.
The only reason I even caved and started writing all that shit to begin with was because I noticed how much worse people would get harassed online if they were outed as a "proshipper" instead of just having that all over their profile to begin with, so I guess I thought I was putting up a safety net. Like when me n my brother were kids and he knew I was about to tell on him, so he would blurt out the truth first to lessen the blow.
I still catch myself sometimes, starting to explain and rant to any antis reading, instead of the people I can affect, and who I should be focusing on instead: the people I can help. Gonna take me a long time to dissolve that burning wish to change the minds of persecutors. ><
But yeah, fuck the dni thing. It's so stupid, and sometimes when I'm bored, one of my favorite things to scroll is screenshots of strangers' AWFUL and contradictory dni standards. They're almost always antis, but that's not surprising.
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