I think part of the problem is that you are doing what a lot of people naturally, but mistakenly, do. Compare it to YouTube.
PeerTube isn’t trying to be YouTube. The only thing they have in common, is showing videos. That’s it.
YouTube is a commercialized and corporate owned video aggregator that takes their users, changes them into commodities, and then monetizes the content from it’s creators who are forced to follow the dictates of an algorithm if they wish to get a fraction of the value that they’ve put in.
PeerTube is a decentralized and federated video aggregator that is owned by the people. The users remain users and there is no monetization or algorithm which forces a user to follow. Any monetary compensation is strictly between the user and their audience.
The problem you’re talking about isn’t a problem with PeerTube, it’s a problem with norms set by corporate entities. People hate to learn new ways of doing things. PeerTube isn’t that hard to use once you understand the basics and how it integrates into the Fediverse. There’s a reason that most PeerTube instances don’t accept registrations from people who aren’t creating videos. Aside from cutting down on spam and bad actors, there’s really no need for it. Want to find a video? Do a Mastodon (or other Fedi service) search for the appropriate title or hashtag. Then you can follow the creator and get notifications. You can even comment and like and boost.
In other words, no one needs a PeerTube account unless they are making videos.
But that isn’t the norm. YouTube is the norm and people mistakenly expect a YouTube like service. So when they see that things are different, their brain short circuits.
But unlike a lot of people, I don’t see this as a problem. I think it’s a feature.
The fact that it forces people to learn a new non corporate lead way of doing things opens up a world of benefits that non Fedi people can’t even imagine. Choice? Control? They have no real understanding of what those things really are. And because they aren’t willing to learn something new, they get upset and don’t bother trying. Which is fine with me. Because it means every instance is filled with people who were willing to break out of the mold and learn something new. THAT’S a feature.
So yes, while PeerTube isn’t perfect and still has bugs to work out, it’s fairly good at what it’s supposed to do. Which is to serve videos to the Fedi and not just PeerTube. Anything else you want it to do or be, is based on your own biases that you most likely picked up from corporate owned services.