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Today I wrote about what it means to write a free newsletter with voluntary subscriptions, and the delicate gift that it is to have a readership, and re-shared 12 essays from the year that was.
“Say I tell you, ‘If I tell everyone my father is an attempted murderer, I am leaving him no path for redemption.’ You might conclude that I have decided that this is not a story about the danger of my brother being choked, but rather a story about danger to my father's spirit and reputation, and how it might be saved.”
By @JuliusGoat
Cultures of abuse center focus on the abuser’s story. https://www.the-reframe.com/f/
Have you noticed? When someone points to our responsibility—individual and personal, or collective and societal—to end an abuse, the question asked next is very rarely about *how* to do it, but how to *prevent* us from doing it, for fear of doing it the wrong way.
I began answering the common question "How do we stop abuse without becoming abusive ourselves?"
Point 1: "What is it about stopping abuse that you think puts us in such danger of becoming abusive that it is the first question you ask in response to the call to do so?"