It does make you wonder who the next companies will be trying to hide their participation in current other atrocities that have yet to be aknowledged as such?

I know, such a breath of fresh air!

Look, I understand your point and I shouldn’t consider any woman being nice to me as flirting… But in this particular case, she just asked me for my phone number yesterday so she could quote " get to know me better and continue the conversation over the weekend." We have odd work weeks and this is the start of our weekend.

I don’t think there is any mystery about that part anymore. I had asked if she was seeing John and she said no, they are just friends.

As for John, he was denied for the role he really wanted to apply to for very dumb reasons and I am very upset for him. There is nothing I can personally do about improving his situation as the things he hates about our company are not within my or even my superior’s control. He has told me he can’t leave either as he can’t find a job elsewhere.

I want to be supportive of John, but I am even trying to push it in this direction, its just going there on its own and I am currently not stopping it as she is an awesome person I would like to get to know better.

You are right though, there is no option where “I get the girl” and not burn bridges and not torch themental health of my coworker. Even if I said no, he will still be hurt as she is clearly not interested in him. Just to a lesser degree.

Finally! Now someone is asking the big questions that we need answers to.

I never thought I would be in one of these types of posts either. It has gotten spicier. Out of curiosity, I had ended up asking her if there was anything going on between them to which she stated that they are just friends and he asked for her number. She does not want to lead him on according to her. Yesterday she asked for my number and I said sure.

Lady is moving this faster than I had planned for.

It is the only reasonable decision.

If it makes you feel better, I appreciated your opinion.

Well all the pieces are there. However, for me at least, I don’t like sharing. Lol

“or just plainly told him to fuck off.” I don’t know man, I feel like that would get me in more trouble. lol

Ultimately, whatever gets the job done with the least amount of feelings hurt is usually the best solution. Sometimes you have to try the carrot before you try the stick. I have gotten pretty far with that alone, but I think the bullshit we deal with is getting to him a bit too much and the rest of it is self inflicted.

I don’t need to be close with any of my staff, but it helps.

“He needs to learn to find a level of sharing that can keep him safe, because elsewhere in the thread you mention he’s on the verge of disciplinary action.” Agreed, he overshares way too much and it is going to bite him on the ass at some point.

My closeness with my team is unavoidable and is better I lean into it. We work long shifts and I must interact with them constantly. Managing the children as a kindergarten teacher becomes a lot easier when they like you personally.

“But fr, act like he didn’t tell you about Jane and pretend you forgot. It’s probably the only winning move here even if it sucks.” I don’t that will fly sadly. He has mentioned it twice now.

“Posting follow ups as things continue is the ultimate winning move.” You just want to know how this nonsense plays out, don’t you? lol