👑 Mia 💙On the upside, the "learn how to say no" goal for the year is going well.
Boss: "Hey, Mia, what if we did this huge thing that would fall mostly/entirely on you, would that be co--"
Me: *two middle fingers up, sunglasses down, rolls outta the place*
chiropteform macrovirus@Dauntless I relate!! sometimes, my managers call me in last-minute or make me stay over my scheduled hours w/o letting me know ahead of time. Saying "no" is kinda difficult in general, but we can both do it ^^
@cfmv Yeah, they're trying to rope me in to being on-call 24/7. You just gotta decide where the line is for you, and stand your fucking ground like the Borg are on the other side. THIS FAR. NO FURTHER.
@Dauntless that's what I feel like they're trying to do to me too!! it's kinda hard bc it's my first job ever (aside from taking care of kitties when I was in HS) & I want to make a good impression, & my managers are stressed out a lot, but...I agree with you about drawing the line.
@Dauntless Another issue is that I want money to pay for school, but I also need to draw the line! But money. But my mental health! But other life priorities...etc
@cfmv The thing you gotta remind them-- and yourself-- is that you ain't gonna be any use to anybody if you burn yourself out. Carve out your free time and defend it with tooth and claw.
I say this like it's just that easy, but god damn it if I can do it, you sure as hell can too.
@Dauntless this is what I've been kinda thinking about too, but I've been worried about being selfish. so thank you, this helped reassure me I'm on the right track with fighting for time for myself ;w;
@cfmv Sure, it's selfish, but being selfish is not inherently a bad thing! It's somethin' you gotta balance. If you don't, people will end up wringing you dry-- not even necessarily out of malice, but just because they're expecting you to push back and go "yo I'm tired, I need a nap."