Requiring that I erase my past, to present a consistent and current identity to the world is a violence.

I have not always been a woman. My being a woman is complicated. My old name was still my name. My time as young man taught me a lot about being a man in our culture. My time as a woman has taught me a lot about it too, and vice versa.

@aredridel While I personally do feel that I was always a girl (or at the very least never a boy), I think it's destructive how the "born this way" narrative is used to justify being trans. There are many ways of being trans, but the dysphoria is equally painful. Thank you for sharing a different narrative.