a stalwart Man was subjected to my post with a cute girly aesthetic and he took the time to let me know how much it annoyed him that there are posts on Mastodon that are cute and girly. There is of course only one solution
@0xabad1dea activity pub should have decorated post, where you can provide a subset of css (border, border-image, background-color, color, font-weight, maybe font-family. The background-color and color combo would be validated and refused if not contrast-accessible)