Mastodawn

Following up on my #GenderQuest threads (here https://toot.cat/@naga/116091924889943010 and here https://toot.cat/@naga/116223633843084229 )

Most recently, I shifted my identity label to demimale.

I've been looking at whether I might be less male / possibly more female than I'd been considering.

I do get some kind of euphoria from skirts in a couple specific styles, as well as just a general enjoyment of dressing femme. I also enjoy lip stain and nail polish, but I can't apply those myself (hand tremor).

So I've been brainstorming with Jalan's help what I can experiment with to see if it brings euphoria, with the caveat of being mostly bedbound and not having much spare money.

So I'm thinking of what I can try with low investment of money and physical energy. Before I test bigger-social-investment things like how I respond to pronouns other than he/him.

One is more clothing options. I'd like to try a dress--that would be new. Maybe another skirt or two in the style like I one I love.

Before that, though, I'll probably want to get some level of shaping. I can't wear anything that could interfere with movement, make me overheat, or impede using a plastic urinal.

I also need to allow for having a broad, hairy chest.

So I'm looking at the next purchase being some sponge breast forms and a full-coverage zip-front bra (a behind-the-back clasp is out of the question). I have a few blouses that look fine on a flat chest, but I want to see if having some curves under them feels good.

And I'd want to test that before picking a dress style or two to try, because whether I have chest curves under them might affect selection.

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Naga (he/him) (@[email protected])

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Naga (he/they good for now)May 4

One other thing I've wondered about has to do with genitals and sexuality.

I don't like the looks of any genitals very much, but there's no dysphoria there.

I have a powerful kink for orgasm control, and I do not want to entangle these two things. My gender, whatever it turns out to be, isn't a kink and I want to keep that motivation out of it.

Enjoying touch isn't gendered, orgasm isn't particularly gendered, and to keep the kink out I don't want to entangle this with those.

What I'm looking at modifying in part is ejaculation -- as the "spray" is very much associated with a bio-dick.

So the idea is to go without the spray -- with Jalan's cooperation, wearing condoms every time there's a chance I'll have an orgasm. So I can still enjoy the touch, still enjoy the orgasm, but change the most male-coded expression of it.

This also lets Jalan control the sensual touch and my orgasms and chastity independently of the condom experiment.

I don't know that this will affect my experience of my gender, and I don't even really expect it to. But it's a thing I can try and it's easy and affordable.

Even though it's my idea, I am asking Jalan to use her D/s authority to not let me back off from it until and unless she judges it's been solidly tried and doesn't seem to alter anything for me.

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Naga (he/they good for now)

The order of condoms arrived last Monday, but as of Tuesday evening hadn't come in / been unpacked.

The biggest downside I've been concerned about using condoms for potential gender affirmation is I really like sloppy lubes -- oils, silicone, etc. -- especially when masturbating.

I'm seldom permitted to orgasm, and less often to masturbate (and use up a lot of Obedience app points when I do), and even asking to masturbate is only allowed on certain days of the week. Wednesdays and Thursdays are not among them.

So Tuesday night was basically last chance to get sloppy, at least for months during #GenderQuest, and I asked. Jalan gave permission! It felt good . . .

I asked again Friday, to see how it felt with a condom since that was now in place, and got permission again! Still felt good 😀 .

And I really don't know how long it's been since I was allowed to masturbate twice in a four-day span. Definitely several years, maybe closer to a decade. Woo!

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