Mastodawn

For now, I'm staying with "Pat," for reasons I've talked about -- androgyny, easy to continue on while I decide if I want to change and to what.

A front-runner now is "Linda," which I'd thought was reasonably contemporary to my birth cohort, but it really isn't -- it peaked two decades earlier (in the US) without even accounting for population growth.

Which is not a problem.

But it also led me to look at popular girls' names for my birth year, and most of them sound very young to me....

Perhaps because they were the names of kids in my elementary years? No clue.

I'm mostly just amused that I was a generation off in my perception. But I've also always tended toward the old-fashioned in my presentation (broadly speaking).

And the one Linda I can think of whom I've known well is an entirely positive association (and is queer), so that helps.

#GenderQuest

Robert Kingett 1d ago

Sharing this again since Pride Month is almost over. A Trans friend came out to me, and it was the best feeling! https://sightlessscribbles.com/the-home-of-a-new-name/ #TransJoy #GenderQuest #Joy #LGBT #QueerJoy #Pride

The Home of a New Name, Sightless Scribbles

A fabulously gay blind author.

Pat (she/her)1d ago

I just came out as trans to my sister. I'm the youngest of three -- she's the eldest at a bit more than four years older me, our brother a year after her.

A text chat -- I wanted to tell her, but wasn't sure how I'd muster the courage in video. She felt safest among my family of origin. It went well, and we'll chat by video another time.

Her: "So I now have a sister?"

Me: "You do!"

Her: ""Awesome. Always wanted one of those."

#TransJoy #GenderQuest

Pat (she/her)4d ago

Jalan last night talking about a "Christian" view of marriage -- man as head of household.

Me: "The more male of us is the head of household, she just happens to be the one with a vulva."

I've gotta have my fun.

#GenderQuest

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Pat (she/her)5d ago

I sent the character picture to a long-time dear friend after coming out to her yesterday, describing it is the "idealized femme version of myself."

She came back with, "You are gorgeous."

The use of "you" instead of "the character" or "she," oh, my heart.

#GenderQuest

cc @Alice_polly

Pat (she/her)Jun 22

We acknowledged Father's Day this year, since I missed Mother's Day.

Not sure what I'll want to do next year, but this seemed simple enough, my having acknowledged my gender all of a full week ago...

(EDIT: My own father died of natural causes twenty years ago, so no complications for my feelings there.)

#GenderQuest

Pat (she/her)Jun 21

Jalan gave me a shave, making her the first person to see my chin in over 20 years...

#TransitionGoals #GenderQuest

Pat (she/her)Jun 17

Got my first jewelry of my own as a #TransWoman.

A cheap pack of gold-plate clip-on earrings, some with CZ. It'll do fine.

#GenderQuest

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Pat (she/her)Jun 16

Yeah, I'm gonna stay mad about the half-century gap (between dysphoria and transition) for at least a while yet.

I was in Texas, US, at the time, in the 1970s. And raised by Silent-Generation parents who'd grown up on farms. And the way my family showed "affection" was cutting remarks at the dinner table (which, being #ActuallyAutistic, didn't actually translate for me.) 1980s culture, at least in Texas and other places I lived in the South, didn't really improve things much.

So, yeah, it wasn't something I missed. There really was no way I would have seen an option then. And by the time I might have seen this as possible for myself, I'd walled everything off.

I know it's never too late. And I'm good with that, because I'm delighted now, and so glad I pursued learning my gender. But I'm also still mad.

#GenderQuest

Pat (she/her)Jun 16

So apparently I'm an #ActuallyAutistic #TransWoman. When I was younger and had the time and energy, I took a significant number of 24-hour or longer (sometimes 40) train trips (US, obviously).

No IT or electronic music, but batting .600!

#GenderQuest