Aucraptor
I got dogpiled by Talia Bhatt for this thread so I did everything right. Anyway.
Let's talk about a topic most feminists don't want to hear about: men, masculinity, and love.
Because misandry is real and we need to talk about it. In the following I will write mascs for simplicity. This includes: cis, trans and inter men, nonbinary people who feel connected to masculinity and any other person doing the same. If I mean specific groups I specify it.
I hope we all agree that patriarchy is our common enemy. But patriarchy =/= men
Patriarchy is a system that upholds a very specific group of men and only those: masculine, dominant, white, abled, cis, successful in his job and rich or at least rich enough to not worry about money. Everyone else feels some kind of oppression from this system. And even the winner of patriarchy are harmed by it, often without noticing it. Patriarchy teaches men to distance themselves from their emotions. Men who show emotions are seen as weak and not desireable. The probably most extreme consequence of this is the much higher rate of completed suicides among mascs worldwide.
We need to meet mascs with compassion and love, not rejection. If feminism tells me my whole life I'm a violent monster without offering me an alternative, why should I embrace feminism?
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Show threadAucraptorApr 13
Read bell hooks' The Will To Chance to go much deeper into the emotional hurt we do mascs than I can ever go here.
You say: "All men suck. #YesAllMen " You probably mean the violent patriarch who Beats seemingly weaker people.
You also include by not differenciating:
Any BIPoC mascs, a group that gets disproportionally more often killed simply for not being white.
It's racism. You are acting racist.
Any disabled mascs, who are never seen as fully masc because they "can't stand their man".
Is ableism. You are acting ableist.
Any intersex masc, who quite probably got mutilated as an infant, who maybe doesn't even know they're intersex because it's kept from them and therefore has to suffer unresolved health issues.
It's intersexism, you're acting intersexist.
Any trans masc, who suffers the complete force of misogyny because they're mistaken for a woman. Who gets misgendered and constantly shoved into the "woman" category. Who has to fight for legal recognizion, gets gatekept from medical care and can't get an abortion, because their gender marker says man and abortions are only for women. Who gets mocked for being the wrong kind of man. "You will never be a man, you mutilated [insert slur]." Who gets also beaten down because they're masc.
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Show threadAucraptorApr 13
"Shut up, you're a man, and abortion is not a man's topic." Who is expected to catch the beating that was ment for someone else, because men in patriarchy have to be the strong protector of the weak, and get killed over it.
I can continue the list endlessly.
This is transmisandry and you're acting transmisandrist.
The non-heterosexual masc for loving the "wrong" way.
This is queermisia, you're acting queermisic.
The majosity of violent crimes are committed by men. The majority of victims of those crimes are also men.
But it's not only physical violence that hurt people, but psychological and emotional violence. And femme people are very much able to commit any form of violence.
While at the same time patriarchy as an oppressive system shames mascs who seek help and talk openly about the abuse they've suffered. Shame is a very powerful weapon, and patriarchy wields it to beat mascs into silence about their suffering.
Femmes are capable of violence towards mascs. The most abuse I've suffered in my life, always came from women. It doesn't need to be a fascist TERF. Any cis woman holds more systemic power over any transmasc.
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Show threadAucraptorApr 13
Adding to my list: fat mascs, because the patriarchal man has to be athletic and healthy. That also means, that neurodiverse mascs face discrimination for being neurodivergent as well.
Cont. the thread:
While cis women hold systemic power over me, I also hold systemic power over any BIPoC because I'm white.
Or, to sum it up: We have to think intersectional, a term that stems from Black women of the critical race theories.
Patriarchy is an oppressive system that affects all aspects of life, and therefore we have to take all aspects of life into consideration to fight it.
To simply say, all men suck, doesn't solve anything, it's way to simple minded to conter such a complex topic. If you believe in "all men suck" while trying to be a safe space for any marginalized groups, you're lying, because you can't be said safe spaces.
Only speaking from the trans perspective here, because that's my perspective:
You need to clock any trans person as trans. The trans man is only acceptible for you, if he's clearly trans. The trans woman is only safe to you, if she's visibly trans. The nonbinary, agender and genderfluid person ist only safe to you, If they're visibly gender non conforming and not in a masculine way.
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Show threadAucraptorApr 13

And all these things are potentially endangering any trans person. Visibly being trans gets us killed these days.
Your safe space is a lie. Making a place unwelcome to any gender makes it unsafe for anyone. Why should I come into your supposedly "safe" space, if you can kick me out the moment I act too "masculine" for you? Why should a closed trans woman come to your "women only" space when she has to disclose the fact that she's trans? Gender based hate is always discrimination, no matter which direction it goes, and you will always act within the system of patriarchy instead of against it.
With what logic can you deny the existence of misandry while claiming to fight patriarchy? Patriarchy by design is gender, class and race based oppression. You can't deny any part of it, if you want to dismantle the system. If thinking this way makes me an MRA, honestly: I wear it with pride, because it's true. But then be consequent and label feminists like bell hooks as MRA as well.
If you've taken at least one thing from my thread, then read bell hooks right now.
Thanks for coming to my ted talk. Cis endo people are required to give me a tip, if they can spare money, for my free educational work here.

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