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lime!3rd, to be specific.
I was in the honeymoon phase with that Korean guy I mentioned, the one I moved in with after like a day of meeting. Did some traveling with him, so I went offline in general. Didnāt work out; felt both too shallow and too deep at the same time, so I broke it off.
Took that solo trip I was talking about and am currently in Vietnam.
Track_ShovelBe careful out there, on your own and away from home. You donāt have your support network like you would at home (wherever that may be).
felt both too shallow and too deep at the same time, so I broke it off.
Ah, the olā tuna can size problem
cannedtunaWtf did I do to you?
Clearly not enough orgasms.
What the actual fuck is your life?
Ey ich frag doch nurSir, this is a shitpost
Youāre back!
You cannot love another if you donāt love yourself. The best is finding someone who wants to grow beyond their past hurts. Become better people. Together.
Good luck all.
Oops we are in shitposts not couple memes. I meanā¦
The main quest is marriage. The side quest is eating strangers asses. Ive always gotten distracted dungeon crawling. š«
Lmao @ dungeon crawling
You are right, though. Itās not fair to any partner if you expect them to fulfill the hole in your emotional wellness. All you are doing is setting yourself up to be emotionally fragile and codependent on them.
If youāre like me, you wonāt listen to the information above, but I promise you that I learned this the hard way.
MinnesotaGoddammain quest is eating asses! banish this one to the hole!
Welcome back. Was wondering what happened
Welcome back!
Feels like the main quest with how much Iāve been avoiding it
good, youāll gain so many xp and skills from your other quests, that when youāre ready, the dating quests will be easier
This is not true
āsomeone who hasnt dated in years
I meant that by investing time and effort in yourself, in what you like, you become a better person, and a better partner.
Yes im well on my way to dying hopelessly alone. I dont need you to explain the basics to me.
fFUUUUUUUUU i wrote a long response but accidentally deleted it. fuck
I was extremely depressed not long ago. and extremely lonely, feeling unworthy of affection or human relationships. barely felt human.
It began with no kings, I met a group protesting Palestine (had no idea they existed, and a topic in very interested). from there I joined their weekly protests. from those I was introduced to DSA, and I began working on their mutual aids. before I realized I was getting invited to other activities/action groupsā¦
now?
From those groups I have made very deep friendships which I treasure deeply. Have grown as a person, I feel human. I see them so often, barely passes a couple days without hanging out with someone. Have managed dating, partly because how much more interesting and rich my life is right now, but cut it off due to cPTSD giving me nightmarish flashbacks from a traumatic abusive relationship I had in the past. but I still get intimacy frequently, like amazing intimacy with amazing people regularly. my depression is non existent. and it became a positive feedback loop, and in ever step, i gradually discovered who the fuck I was, the person lost in years of depression. Iām a fruity silly goof who wants to make the world a better place.
Iām not saying any of this to brag. and it is my upmost intention not to make you feel worse. I want you to believe that I was there, 100% was there, in the deepest depression, over a decade without experiencing any positive emotion, 5 suicide attempts, countless failed antidepressant treatments.
all Iām saying, find a group that does something you care about, and show up. consistency is key. it was so awkward at the beginning. but it got so easy so quickly.
if your situation is so dire I believe you can get out.
Generally great advice. Its what i tell people!
Does not apply to me.
Life when you fully understand gender and sexual orientation is a completely made up concept. You just need to be the true self and embrace that life is short and be confident to express your feelings.
Out of curiosity, if itās all completely made up, how would you explain the fact that people across different cultures and time periods consistently report similar patterns in sexual orientation? That suggests thereās something deeper going on than just social invention.
That said, I completely agree with you on being authentic ā I just think the ācompletely made upā part might be a stretch
Its a construct made up based on the needs and perceotions of primitive peoples. Id explain it the same way id explain patterns/similarities/trends in mythology and language across cultures that had no contact. That doesnt make it ārealā any more than āmamaā is the true word for āmotherā
Not sure that analogy quite lands. Words like āmamaā are arbitraryāyou could change them and nothing real changes. But sexual orientation isnāt just a label, itās describing consistent patterns in who people are attracted to, and those show up across cultures.
I think itās more like colour: the boundaries (like where blue becomes green) are kind of made up, but the spectrum itself is real. Same idea hereāthe labels can vary, but the underlying experience isnāt just invented.
It comes up a lot in a lot of languages because its a very easy combination of phonemes for a human tomake even without much motor control. Parents like to think baby is talking about them.
Life when you start dating your sidequest instead of your mainquest. š
Glad you still alive!
Hear about the gay of hormuz?