CarolynWomen are not obligated to wear makeup or long hair, heels and skirts. They are not obligated to have plastic surgery to look feminine enough for the rightwing misogynists.
DDR@ddr Yep. Pink frilly stuff and lipstick is 100% societal, 0% to do with DNA or gender, and women get to choose if they want to play the game.
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Magnus Ahltorp@oftencalledcathy @CStamp @ddr Kids like stuff. Then they discover what the environment thinks about them liking that stuff, and then they (almost always) hide away their preferences. Offhanded comments, subtle glances, teasing, ”jokingly” teasing, seeing other people being told off for liking it, etc.
@oftencalledcathy @ddr @CStamp I of course don’t know your daughter’s condition, but children pick up much more than we think. And if she enjoys compliments, she probably picks up on not getting them, and maybe also understands subtle disapproval.
It can be really small things, not even that an adult or fellow child disapproves themselves, but just that someone thinks ”what will the neighbours think” can be read in their voice, face, or gestures. Same goes for positive feedback.